Are You Tired Of Settling For Average Women?

For guys who think that they “don’t really need to learn that seduction stuff”

Doing ‘Ok’ Women

When guys think of our typical clients, it's very easy for them to paint a picture in their minds of who needs dating coaching. Guys who are probably still virgins and living in their mother’s basement. Guys who have mustered the courage and strength to conquer the Demon Lords of the Dungeons and Dragons universe, yet not the balls to get laid. Guys who find it easier to talk to a computer than to a real human being in front of them.

And while we do take on clients like these, the ones who ACTUALLY need it are guys like you.

Yes, YOU.

Guys who think they’re ‘doing ok’ with girls.

Guys who think they ‘don’t really need to learn that seduction stuff’.

Guys who think they’ve ‘got some things in the pipeline’, meaning they’re basically guaranteed to get laid…sooner or later.

Because whilst you think that things are going alright, they’re really not. You’ve just fallen into a false sense of security.

Unless you’re able to approach a woman you find attractive any time, anywhere, and make something happen from that, you still need to learn seduction.

Risking Rejection

I know you might not think that now. You might believe that because you’ve got a couple of girls on tinder you’re working on, you’re still hooking up with your ex, and Sally from the office is always flirting with you, that things are all going according to plan.

That you can check out our videos from time to time, or read these emails and pick up a few ‘tips and tricks’, but don’t actually have to commit yourself to ever approaching.

To, you know, risk getting rejected.

What’s actually happening underneath is that you’re lying to yourself about how good you are with women. Somewhere in there is an idealized version of yourself which isn’t actually reflected in reality.

You might THINK you’re a catch, but when push comes to shove the really quality women that you pass by on the street, that you see waiting at the bus stop, wouldn’t give you a second thought.

To actually approach her would mean having to risk getting rejected, and in turn having your ego shattered into a thousand tiny pieces.

This is the fallacy of the average man. The inability to reconcile his false ego with the truth.

Because the truth is that you actually want to be with those top quality women. And not only be with them, but to have the ability to get another, and another, until you’ve completely had your fill.

You might even be one of those guys who has slept with 100’s of women because you were a nightclub promoter. Or maybe your ex-girlfriend was a model who you met through friends.

But that doesn’t mean that you’ll be able to replicate those results. As soon as you lose whatever status, privilege or connections you had that got you those women in the first place, you lose your shot at getting them again.

Your reliance on external circumstances is what has lead you to where you are now: having this false sense of superiority about your dating skills.

Stepping Outside Of Your Comfort Zone = Ego Shattered

And trust me, I know more than anyone else what this is like, as does James Marshall. We can both point to moments in our past where we had options with women because we were in bands, or had rocking social circles.

But when it came to getting that Russian model who strutted past us on the street, we were flabbergasted as to what to do.

The only way you’re ever going to be able to score the women you really want is to step outside of your comfort zone, open yourself up to rejection, and subsequently have your ego shattered, hopefully hundreds of times like James and I have.

Because, truth be told, this doesn’t get easier. As dating coaches we struggle with this on a daily basis. We could be walking out our door having had a threesome with two models the night before, approach a girl, and have her blow us off as though we were trash.

Boom. Ego shattered.

 

The Essentials Of Seduction

If you’re still not convinced, consider these three things that seducers need to master in order to be able to get the truly quality women, to be able to compete with guys who are high powered CEO’s or flying girls around in private jets.

Logistics. How well would you be able to navigate a complicated situation where you’ve got mere hours to sleep with a girl before both you and her fly to different countries?

Relationships. If you’re being cockblocked by that alpha guy from her work who has been trying to get in her pants for months, or that fat friend who’s jealous of Tiffany always getting the guys, would you know how to win them over and still get the girl?

Boundaries. What would you do when those super hot girls start putting up all these walls when you’re trying to sleep with them? They KNOW they’re highly valued on the market, otherwise guys wouldn’t be buying them expensive clothing, taking them to fancy restaurants and offering to fly them out to exotic locations. Why would they offer themselves up to you without something in return? Could you really pull your weight in that situation?

If you think fumbling your way through a seduction with that chubby 6 last week will prepare you for the high class women of the world, you’re sadly mistaken.

This is the wake up call you need. Right now, that part of you who is sick of dating average girls, of having them choose you instead of the other way around, is dying to learn how to really land the top quality women of the world.

Luckily for you I’m going to teach you the exact sexual energy and touch that those women are looking for in my online course, the Sex God Masterclass I know from coaching thousands of men that it's easy for the average guy to get sexual with a 6 or 7, but once they’re dealing with a high class woman they start treating her as though she’s made of porcelain, terrified to touch her lest they taint her perfect flawless skin.

I’m going to help you overcome that barrier and teach you the mindsets, beliefs and actions you need to be able to seduce those women just like every other woman you’ve met so far. Click here to learn more about the Sex God Masterclass.

The question is simple: do you want better quality women in your life?

If the answer is ‘yes’, then do you think doing things the same way you are now is going to lead to you getting those women?

Even if you spend the rest of your life avoiding approaching and rejection, instead hoping for another one of those random encounters where you might get lucky and bump into a model at a friends house party, learning how to touch a woman properly is the starting point to bringing more of those women you REALLY want into your life.

 

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But which path do you choose?

Reliving The Glory Days

A lot of guys have fond memories of the ‘glory days’ in life, some period when things just seemed to be getting better and better, and everything was going their way.

For some it’s high school where they had a great group of buddies and a girlfriend.

For others it's university or college, where they had easy access to girls, a lot of free time to spend with friends, and laying the foundation for a successful career.

And yet something inevitably changes that makes all of this crumble. You have to leave school or university, or your friends all move on, or you break up with that girlfriend who you were planning to spend the rest of your life with.

When this happens you’re likely to find yourself at a crossroads. You can’t go back and have things be the way they were. You have to move forward. But which path do you choose?

Begin Again

Do you decide to retreat into your comfort zone, mourning the loss of what you once had and giving up on ever having it again?

Or do you set yourself a new goal, start putting in the work to reinvent your life and create something even better than what you had before?

Most guys I know choose the former.

They spend years stuck in a job they hate, desperately trying to meet women through work and friends with little to no success, and wishing that some magical fairy would wave a wand and take them back to the good ol’ days.

Very few actually make a conscious effort to change. These are the guys we see taking our live workshops, attending our seminars, or signing up for our online courses.

They’re the ones who have decided enough is enough, that there must be more to life then moping around in regret and sorrow.

But the rest are simply stuck in the past, forever tethered to a time that’s never going to come again.

Taking The First Steps

It’s not easy to set out on a new journey when you realize you’re never going to relive those old experiences.

Part of the resistance is admitting that somewhere along the way you’re going to have to fail, make mistakes, get rejected, all important parts of starting something new.

This is especially true of seduction and cold approach pick up. The early days can be some of the hardest because you have very little experience to go on and don’t really know what you’re doing.

So where does that leave you?

Luckily I’ve put together a 3 week course called the Dating Accelerator that is specifically designed for beginners. Guys who are looking for a new way to meet women, but are terrified of taking those first steps. In this practical nuts and bolts guide I’ll be describing exactly what you need to be doing to make progress as a beginner, as well as highlighting some of the common pitfalls and giving you homework missions to make sure you stay on target. You can learn more about the course by clicking here.

Remember, the only way you had those glory days to begin with was by making a start. It wasn’t all sunshine and lollipops along the way; it’s just easier to remember all of the good parts and forget the bad.

Having a balanced perspective on things is not only healthy but will ensure you’re able to continue enjoying life and the future before you.

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How To Touch Women?

The Right Way

What’s Really Holding You Back With Women

What’s the one thing that’s preventing you from experiencing intimate connections with women?

Is it not having enough money?

Or status?

Or muscles?

Or could it be that you’ve been raised to do the exact opposite of what you should be doing on a date with a woman?

See, what you’re actually supposed to be doing is touching women, and often. As long as you have a woman's consent, you should be putting your arm around her, touching her lower back, playing with her fingers underneath the table at dinner.

But instead, if you’re like most men you fumble your way through a date knowing that you SHOULD touch a woman, but with no idea as to HOW to touch her.

I’ve specifically designed my online course, the Sensual Massage Mastery, to be a practical guide to touching women. Rather than spending hours on end delving into evolutionary psychology or gender studies theory, I get straight into giving you the nuts and bolts of how you should be touching women on dates.

Putting Yourself In Her Shoes

If you’re having trouble understanding how to touch, put yourself in the woman's shoes for a moment.

She’s spending all of this time getting dressed up, doing her hair and make-up to make sure she looks great for you. She’s invested in at least getting to know you and finding out if there is a future between you two.

But most importantly, she’s showing up hoping it goes well.

And part of things going well means being touched by you.

Knowing that you can not only have a conversation with her and make her laugh, but also connect with her in a non-verbal way.

Because this is going to tell her how confident you are, how comfortable you are in your body, and also how capable you’ll be in the bedroom.

The Ideal Date

No woman wants to walk away from the date thinking “well I guess he was nice, but he didn’t touch me at all…”

And in a similar fashion, she doesn’t want to be thinking “god he wouldn’t stop touching me, it’s like he doesn’t even know what he’s doing so he just forces himself to do it!”.

She’d love to be able to call her girlfriends and say “I met this guy and…well…I don’t know how to describe it, but when he put his hands on me there was this…heat…this...electricity between us.”

That feeling that she can’t describe is why touch is so important. It circumvents the logical rational part of the brain and goes straight to the heart. It connects to something deeper, something more primal and instinctual.

We all need to be touched as people. You as a man need to be touched.

But if you’re unable to touch a woman and work towards building an intimate connection, you’re going to be denied that touch, and hoping that she does all of the work.

And even if she does initiate and touch you a lot, chances are you’re still going to be uncomfortable with it, and eventually, she’ll get sick of doing all of the work and move on to a man who knows what he’s doing.

So if you want to learn how to touch a woman properly, the masculine way, be sure to check out the Sensual Massage Mastery by clicking here.

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Why I Created Natural Warrior Training by James Marshall

Negative foundations that are literally destroying men’s lives

Have you ever wondered what the core problem is that causes most men to lack natural confidence and ease of masculine expression around both women and their peers? Without going into too much detail we can say that the way men are being raised in the 21st Century has deviated radically from older cultural processes of moving from boyhood into manhood. Transitioning into manhood once meant going through physically difficult and mentally strenuous initiation challenges. Strong male role models would be present to teach young men the importance of certain principles of being, and guide them on a journey to discover their sense of purpose. When you have a tribal environment like this surrounding you, your masculine power can be naturally ignited and your mission can become much clearer.

Nowadays unfortunately most of these initiations are lost. Men are thrown into the world receiving little or no guidance from reliable role models and are often largely unaware of their bodies and instincts. They are presented with conflicting messages about what it means to be a man and how to own your masculinity and sexuality with pride. Often men become shaky, socially numb and feel powerless. This negative foundation is literally destroying men’s lives! And that’s why I created the week-long Natural Warrior Training workshop.

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What does this program do?

This program provides you with an intensive experience of ancient tribal initiations blended together with modern personal enhancement and optimization systems. I’ve pulled together a diverse and dynamic team of world-class specialists from movement, mental and spiritual schools, and seamlessly combined their teachings and practical exercises to create an intense masculinity development process for the men who join the workshop. The coaches act as mentors and an experienced shaman guides you through a number of ceremonies that cleanse and prepare you for completing the culmination of your week-long experience – your vision quest.

In all my years coaching seduction, the core issues of purpose, confidence and worthiness come up over and over again. The real problem is much less what to say to a girl on the street but how you feel about yourself and how able you are to rally internal resources to be effective in the world and kind and nurturing to yourself throughout the process. This workshop is designed to reconnect a man with his primal nature, help him discover his true purpose and allow him to experience a real sense of belonging to a powerful tribe. It will test you deeply and allow you to discover yourself and your ability to connect with your environment and those around you in ways you never thought possible.

To guarantee the optimal training experience, lots of individual feedback from our elite teachers and a true tribal experience we limit this workshop to twelve brave men. If you don’t want to waste further time feeling trapped and you desire to finally become a man then I encourage you to reserve your place now…

Peace,

James

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Surrounded by people you don’t resonate with?

(even when you’re on a date?)

One question we get a lot about our workshops is…

''Why should I even bother to  attend a workshop if I already have some experience with women and a social circle?"

Whether you’re a positive guy who’s still just getting started in dating and relationships or someone with a few girls and friends around him, the answer is simple..

“To have the power to choose the right women for you.”

What do we teach our clients?

The truth is that most of our clients are not hard cases, not socially awkward virgins, but normal guys with decent careers and often experience in some type of romantic relationships. Even though they experienced some success in their dating lives they still feel they lack the quality they have always dreamed of. They want the freedom not to settle for an average girl who has little to offer them but who was convenient to date because there were no other options. Guys who take our workshops develop the social freedom to be able to confidently approach the real girl of their dreams instead in a café or in the street. Of course, the foundation of this ability to exercise freedom is always a healthy relationship with yourself, and that’s something that will inevitably be challenged as part of the workshop. Thoughts, emotions and physical sensations will be something to go through but I’ve always seen it come back to whether a man can show a woman that he doesn’t need her but want her and have the confidence and competence to really show that he wants to connect with her and do it successfully. That’s what we teach our clients.

Another advantage to doing a TNL workshop is, of course, access to the TNL online community, which, after 14 years of workshops in Australia, Europe and the U.S., is extensive. More importantly, that community is made up of guys who not only understand but actively practice what they learn with TNL, and so is the best place to find accountability, feedback and encouragement. Participants on TNL workshops receive guidance on how to build social networks like the TNL crew from the coaches, as well as through connecting with other guys on the course. The workshop gives you the chance to learn how to create social circles that are more than just your colleagues from the office as buddies as you develop the ability to seek out and interact with  like-minded, challenging, inspiring, supportive guys on their path to self- improvement.

A TNL workshop is a unique transformative experience

It’s hard to explain how deeply the change process goes in a few words. Our coaches work with you to develop your ability to self-coach and we use specialised drama role-play exercises to develop your ability to express your intent, have an engaging conversation and calibrate with touch. The core TNL curriculum only fits into a four-day program of eight hours per day and that’s why it’s our shortest group workshop. If you’re looking to dramatically develop your ability to interact with women, develop your confidence at a core level, and most importantly, get all the tools to design a lifestyle of your choice, join us on one of our upcoming 4–day residential...

Truth is, like I’ve said before, you’re really potentially only one approach away from meeting your next great lover, girlfriend, etc. The important thing is to learn how to make that approach matter;)

Peace,

James

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Things have changed

Gentlemen!

Things have changed…

In case you haven’t noticed the landscape of seduction and lifestyle design is always evolving and unless you know how to stay on track, you’ll waste a lot of time stuck with concepts that do not apply anymore. For example, it is much more common in 2020 to exchange Instagram with a woman than it is to ask for her number, but knowing how to convey your attractive personality on social media like Instagram is anything but intuitive or basic.

Ask any of the dozens of guys who remained unanswered in her DMs…

Or you might be feeling disappointed by a lifestyle and social circle that doesn’t match your ambitious expectations. In a world full of life coaches where can you find a group of real leaders who live out their principles in seduction, lifestyle design and inner game and can share their valuable perspectives on these areas. At the same time it  can be hard to find people who are like-minded in their willingness to think outside of the box with life, guys who know that it’s good to approach women, guys who expect more out of life, potential collaborators and wingmen.  

So how do you stay ahead of the curve and get really good at all of this, once and for all?

These are the kinds of problems our sell-out annual tribal gathering known as the Masculine Mastermind Conference engages with. This unique 3-day event gives you the rare opportunity to meet and greet the entire TNL team and join a powerful worldwide brotherhood of positive men. Whether you’re a beginner taking your first steps in seduction and you’re looking for the freedom to approach any woman you want in any situation, or you’re an intermediate or higher level guy struggling to achieve consistency of results and become surrounded by the top 5% of people. Our incredible team of coaches and guests, whose combined seduction and lifestyle enhancement experience exceeds over 100 years, will help you to find your own roadmap and action plan to keep developing yourself. The MMC has taken place the past three years in Budapest, Hungary. This year the usual date has been pushed forward due to the COVID 19 crisis and has been scheduled for September 25th to 27th. One attendee described the conference as “an opportunity to learn more in 3 days than in the past 3 years of my life”.

Do not waste further time with outdated concepts and gift yourself an upgrade in the way you experience life. 2020 is the year.

 

Peace,
James

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How to Make Her Friends Love You

Did you ever experience a very strong connection with a cute girl you just met only to have her dragged away from you by her jealous group of friends?

What’s up guys! 

Alex here:)

Did you ever experience a very strong connection with a cute girl you just met in a bar or out on the street…

…only to have her dragged away from you by her jealous group of friends?!

Whenever I coach guys on how to approach and date stunning girls they meet on the street at one of our workshops the topic of dealing with more than one woman at a time always draws a lot of resistance from the students. When there’s an opportunity to approach a group of ladies the students either start making excuses not to approach, or, they dive right in ignoring anyone else but the girl they are interested in with the same result mentioned above:/

It took me four years to understand this! The truth is that when I approach a girl who is part of a group my results are often better if I also interact with the rest of the group than if I approach and just talk to the girl while ignoring her friends.

Why? Because women care about the opinions of their friends, they’re very sensitive to their perceived status and if a friend endorses you, she’s much more likely to follow up.

So how can you do it too?

First, next time you approach a girl with a group of people, do not just focus all of your energies on the girl or try to quickly ´´isolate´´ her from her friends. She will always choose them above you. Instead, be very aware of the group dynamics and think about seducing the group as a whole.

Now, here comes the tricky part…

When I talk about seducing the entire group, often guys will start to flirt with all her girlfriends, creating a very confusing atmosphere in which no girl will understand who you are interested in. The student will believe he’s doing a great job but when he later tries to make a move on the girl he wants she will probably reject him, as she feels the pressure of being chosen all of a sudden.

The good news is that the best way to go about it is the most spontaneous one: flirt with the girl you like and just be friendly to the others.

 

That’s it!

Do not try to get to know her friends too much, just communicate with them enough so that they understand that you’re a cool guy with good intentions. Not always, but often, her friends will turn from a potential cock blocker, to your ally. It takes courage to approach a woman, especially in front of her friends. I’ve seen women say that many times to guys and also seen them leave a guy alone with their friend once they see you’re into each other. (Or not, but that’s another story…)

Alex

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How To Survive Beginner’s Hell

There’s a piece of truth few coaches talk about…

To become good at seduction you must accept that often, especially in your early years, it will be a very chaotic process.

What do I mean by that?

Many of our clients come from very analytical and mathematical backgrounds in which the most successful approach is the most logical and carefully planned out one. Things don’t work like that with women. When they begin one of our intensive workshops often guys can be overwhelmed with coming to terms with the randomness, paradox and imperfection of meeting and interacting with women in real life. It’s our job as coaches to hold a flexible framework for learning to allow our clients to learn to embrace and eventually surf the chaos. It does have a logic to it, but it’s more organic than mathematical, let’s put it that way.

That doesn’t mean that by working with us you won’t develop a large degree of control over the results that you can achieve, in fact, your seduction abilities will evolve beyond any expectations you might have. But the first step to getting there is to completely surrender to the fact that when we’re dealing with other human beings we can only exercise our influence over them to a certain extent. For example, you might go and talk to the same girl on two different days and get a very different response on each day because she’s in a bad mood, or a hurry or any other number of factors..

Same approach. Same girl. Opposite outcomes.

Or you might enjoy a great interaction, make her smile and giggle and take her number, but get completely ignored over text. Little did you realize that the pleasant polite chat you delivered didn’t arouse her desire for sexy chaos and adventure and so you slipped down the list of suitors. In this initial confusing phase of the seduction journey, many men get discouraged and quit, usually rationalizing why and making excuses for not learning how to master the chaos.

Under the right guidance, however, this “beginner's hell” can actually be a lot of fun. Instead of banging your head against a wall, you can learn to see that with every single failure comes many learning opportunities that will get you closer to your goals. Unfortunately, a lot of men will never get past the beginner stage. Figuring out how to do it by yourself is possible.

If you have the time to go out every single day and the willpower to approach women for hours, you might end up making it. However, if you’re looking for an accelerated experience that will teach you in 7 days what you might be able to learn by yourself in the next 7 years, book a free consultation call with us. One of our coaches will get in touch with you and assist you to develop a personalized curriculum program to help you achieve your dream lifestyle and break free from any plateaus you might be experiencing at the moment.

Peace,

James

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How To Sound Cool Without Worrying What To Say

What's up guys? It´s Alex here.

Real quick, today I have a simple question for you…

“Do you ever see a very attractive girl walking past you in the street, but freeze completely at the idea of talking to her?”

If you’re anything like me when I was starting out with approaching, it’s probably a daily occurrence.

You certainly know what it feels like but do you know why this happens to you?

Often dating coaches have tried to explain “approach anxiety” as something connected to fear of rejection from the tribe, a response hardwired into us since ancient times. Other more spiritual kinds of gurus see it as a result of complex behaviour patterns formed in response to early childhood traumas. Some say it’s self-worth issues, others claim it’s society’s conditioning, some say the MeToo movement, etc...(you get the idea)

In my experience, the reason why you don’t go chat with beautiful girls on the street is much simpler.

You just don’t know what to talk about and you don't want to feel awkward in front of a total stranger. Fair enough. The great news is that with the right tools you can completely reverse this pattern in your life.

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The Path Out Of Loneliness

I want you to imagine the following scenario for one second…

You are walking in the shopping district on a crowded street in a big city on a very hot afternoon, and people are out enjoying the good weather. You can breathe life in the air, feel it on your skin, vibrant, almost electric, and you feel genuinely great about yourself.

All of a sudden you see her, your dream girl, hurrying towards you.

Your senses ignite. Time slows down.

She quickly turns in your direction, catching you looking at her and shyly looks away, walking past you.

You feel a burning sensation in your gut pushing you to run after her and tell her that she caught your attention and you just had to say hello. So you risk it, you go all in and express your interest to her. And for the first time in your life, you know exactly what to say… Words flow out of your mouth in the most spontaneous way and the two of you get to know each other and connect with one another more in 10 minutes than most people do in ten months. Then you agree to grab a coffee in the following days, she gives you her number and hugs you before saying goodbye.

Sounds like a dream come true?

Believe it or not, this is how a large percentage of my conversations on the street go nowadays. Even the very best get rejected, that’s always going to be the case, but for me, that roll of the dice pays off more than enough to keep bringing sexy sweet women into my life.

But it didn’t use to be like that…

In fact, I used to memorize lines and structures of other successful people and so-called gurus, hoping they would get me their same results. But it always came out sounding a bit weird and the girls could smell that I was trying to act like somebody I was not.

Until one day I decided to try the opposite way…

After learning James Marshall’s principle-based method, completely dropping the script, I saw my results skyrocket.


And here’s the exact formula I teach my students so you can do it too…


Next time you meet a girl just focus on 2 things:

 

1 - Getting to know her with genuine interest and asking only what you’re really curious about. Try to understand what drives her as a person.

2 - Allow her a small chance to get to know you as well.

 

Don’t try to impress her with your coolest achievements but focus on talking about what really makes you excited and passionate.

That’s it. Crazy right?

The connection that you create with a girl is much more about your individual energies and the entire vibe rather than what you specifically say or do. With this in mind, check out my infield videos and try to see if you can spot my 2-step formula in action. If you want to master the art of having interesting conversations, seducing girls in the street and overall improving your entire lifestyle in less than a week being personally coached by me and the TNL crew then you should join one of our 4-day intensive workshops.

Later,

Alex

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How To Connect With Women By Being Yourself

Perspectives from the TNL coaches

You know that feeling?

The summer of love and rainbows is over.

For most men, autumn is either a celebration of connection and mutual growth with the right woman or a cold realization that they settled for an average girl who was the safest option and whom they have nothing in common with. But what should you do if you find yourself falling into the latter, or worse you have no women in your life at all at the moment?

What do you do to get a really great woman into your life?

First, realize that you are surrounded by plenty of options on a daily basis, whether on your way to work, in the library, cafes or at the gym.

Second, go and talk to them.

But as our coaches know, you’re going to be taking this on from a number of levels.

If you’re anywhere like most guys when starting this, though, on one level you probably just feel very stifled at the idea of going to approach complete strangers and experiencing awkward conversations. In all these years of teaching seduction, running out of things to say is one of those common issues that we have to work on with most of our students. Usually a student is ‘running out of things to say’ because he is trying to find the right thing to say in some way, rather than just allowing the conversation to unfold and follow the process of the two of you getting to know each other.

The truth is that creating a great connection with a girl is a lot less about the exact words you say and more about getting to know each other and letting your individual energies bond together.

Alex

Now, on another level, as our Inner Game wizard Shae Matthews would tell you, many of you are preventing such a connection from happening in the first place by putting a lot of expectations on both yourself and the girl about how things should happen and what a good interaction should look like. For example, you might have heard from somebody that women are not attracted to nice guys and now, every time you talk to a girl, you put on a mask pretending to be “The Bad Boy”.

Such a rigid mindset can make your relationships toxic and dysfunctional, so I encourage you to develop a more flexible ideology and engage with new people with an open mind in order to reach a higher perspective of truth.

Shae

 

Now, let’s say you’re one of those men that are humble enough to admit they need to learn from scratch how to approach the ladies and you’re willing to keep an open mind while going through the process. Then, the next question you might have is: how do I learn this? The solution most guys find is to ask for advice from their more successful peers or to go and attend courses with so-called “gurus”. Unfortunately, most of those people will only offer you small pieces of technical advice, telling what to do (hopefully they know) in certain situations and how to do it (usually based on only their own personal experience), but not explaining to you the why of the whole process. A surprising truth that I’ve learned by teaching seduction to men like you for more than ten years is that a technical toolkit of seduction skills that works for me will often not produce the same results for others. Once you internalize the five key principles that I have identified, as opposed to a grab bag of techniques, you can develop your own set of approaches to how you engage in these interactions.

What is truly next level is to find yourself a coach that will not only give you drills surrounding these principles and send you to talk to dozens of girls with some feedback, but one that will also be skilled enough to set you up as a self-directed learner. And by that, I mean teaching you to rely more on your natural intuition and less on external feedback to develop your seduction and social skills. A prime example of this teaching methodology is our Executive Coach and my dear friend Jonathan Thomsen with his Play philosophy, which is focused on a number of concepts including developing a sense of child-like wonder, learning through experimentation, using acting skills like improv and voice development and trying to remember the most important thing of all - to have fun: 

Play makes everything fun, so everything is effortless and enjoyable regardless of the outcome. Play allows for experimentation and development. Playing with the body means developing the body as a finely tuned instrument like a performer does. Play is central to learning and when you are a self-directed learner you can make your own rules. That’s the whole point really - to play with reality and enjoy that process of creation.

Jonathan

 

A TNL workshop is a unique transformative experience. On one side it is a deep dive into your psyche to identify what is blocking you from enjoying meaningful connections with people and expressing your most natural masculine self with women. On the other, it’s a complete exploration of the TNL system of Natural Seduction, all while learning to implement this system in the real world, day and night. Some men, however, no matter how many beautiful women they date or how much wealth they accumulate, still have a sense of unworthiness and lack of purpose. If you’re one of them, the core issue is much less how to communicate with people but how you feel about yourself and how able you are to rally internal resources to be effective in the world, whilst being kind and nurturing to yourself. That’s why I created the Natural Warrior Training, to help men reconnect to their wild nature, heal old traumas, reclaim their manhood and truly express themselves on all levels.

What NWT does is provide you with an intense experience of ancient tribal initiations blended with modern personal enhancement systems. I’ve assembled a team of world class-specialists, from movement, mental and spiritual schools, in order to provide an intense and deep upgrade in the men who join. If you’re looking to reconnect with your primal nature, discover your true purpose and experience a real sense of belonging to a powerful tribe this is the workshop for you.

James

 

TNL has always had a holistic approach to dating, approaching and all the aspects of lifestyle design and inner work that go with the process of becoming an empowered man who engages well with women and can build a dynamic and supportive social circle for himself. Each of the coaches brings a unique perspective and challenges you on far more than just the superficial level where technique-based seduction schools operate. TNL means principle-based learning, an attempt to understand the underlying core dynamics of the interaction between a man and a woman. TNL means Natural game in the fullest sense of the word, in that you are discovering and mastering yourself and your relationships with others on the deepest levels.

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