Why most guys suck in the bedroom (women reveal their worst turnoffs)
They say Ego is the enemy of growth.
I’d argue it’s pretty damaging to your sex life as well.
After working with tens of thousands of men in the past two decades and gathering feedback from hundreds of women; it became clear that most men are falling well short of the type of pleasure possibilities they could give and receive in the bedroom.
For most guys, it’s all about ‘performing’…
Endurance.
Powerful thrusts.
Staying hard.
Thinking about maths equations to try and last 10 minutes
It sounds more like a mechanical chore than a lustful and mindblowing love-making session that leaves her quivering and ruined.
If you’re robotic, repetitive, and unresponsive to her cues and trigger points, your partners will likely have average experiences, possibly fake orgasms and eventually grow dissatisfied and look for a truly good f*ck elsewhere. Brutal I know, but it’s true.
The amazing part is, most never bother to even try to learn the erotic arts, but with a little humility, study, and experimentation, you can easily become part of the 1% of unforgettable lovers.
If you’re seriously committed to becoming the best lover she’ll ever meet, I strongly urge you to keep these two rules in mind:
First, there is a whole world of extreme pleasure beyond classic penetrative intercourse.
In fact, for a large percentage of women, the climax will only be reached through extensive foreplay and good mental stimulation (aka mindfuc*ing).
Second, every girl likes it differently.
Just because your ex enjoyed a tornado tongue down there, it doesn’t mean other women will. Paradoxically, the same ‘technique’ and intensity of stimulation that will make a girl c*m within a minute might cause intense discomfort and pain to a different one.
Never assume you know what she likes, but always ask her.
To learn more on this topic, watch the latest and final video chapter in my ‘Female Sexuality’ series with Psychology Ph.D. Saida Desilets. Link below:
P.S.In less than 48 hours, I’m going to permanently close the enrollments to my 8-month personal mentorship program, the Lifestyle Design Academy.
So far, hundreds of brave men from very diverse backgrounds, age groups, and locations have joined this year’s LDA and are already getting involved in the community.
With me as your guide, we’ll get straight into completely recreating your life, optimizing it for fun, sexy ladies, a fulfilling career, passions, and loyal brothers on the journey ahead this year.
You also get six months of advanced coaching webinars with elite guest mentors like Saida where they reveal top tier secrets and practical strategies to maximize results in key areas of your lifestyle––most of this stuff is way too controversial, and X rated to be uploaded on YouTube ;)
If you’re ready to leave your Ego at the door and embark on a journey that will absolutely transform your life:
The sudden inclusion of more friends completely puzzles most guys, to the point they often abandon the idea of talking to a girl they like just because she’s not alone.
Nonsense.
Truth is that there are no fundamental rules of differences between seducing girls with or without a friend.
All you need to do is acknowledge the other person, introduce yourself, and then go back to the lady you’re interested in. If you’re generally friendly and charming, the friend will often help you, or at least she’s been disarmed.
Check out my latest infield pickup video (it’s an unreleased classic from the TNL vault)
In it, I demonstrate all of this in front of the camera as I successfully get a hot Czech opera singer’s contact while she’s sitting right next to her girlfriend. Pay careful attention to the look they give each other when I leave, that’s what you want:)
Click on the link below to watch it
P.S.The best guys in the dating game get consistent results with hot girls NOT because they’ve systematically internalized hundreds of techniques and patterns like human computers to predict any variable…
They are amazing with women because they can effortlessly adapt to any situation.
They are not rendered static and powerless by rigid dogmas but are minimalist masters of core principles, they can use dynamically to get the best seductive results wherever they are.
For the past 20 years, we at TNL have taught thousands of men in person and tens of thousands online – a practical, direct method to start meeting the women they want and consistently get them on dates.
If you too want to learn from us and transform your dating life, the best way to do so is by joining one of our upcoming live workshops.
We currently have still 2 spots available for our Barcelona Intensive running from May 4th-May 7th, 2022.
Or you can join us for our first US workshop in 2 years, this summer for our epic 7-day New York Program running July 25th-July 31st, 2022––only one spot remaining for this one!
Most men believe that to spark sexual interest in girls they need to consistently display their top game and involve them in the most intriguing conversations.
The goal is to strategically force attraction on her, often also via manipulative techniques like forging fake high-value stories or flexing your financial power so that she is down to sleep with you.
These toxic mindsets stem from a default assumption of scarcity:
‘ Women are not interested in me, so I must do something to get them to like me ‘ .
That’s the opposite of how the most elite natural seducers think and operate.
As I often remind my students in workshops: if a girl agrees to meet you on a date, she’s already attracted to you.
You don’t have to prove yourself or impress her to move things forward.
Just be relaxed, focus on genuinely getting to know her, make incremental physical touch and often proximity plus time spent together will do the rest for you.
This is also the topic of my latest video where I interview my long-time friend and Seduction legend, Gareth Jones.
Gareth is a true OG in the industry, having spent two decades as a men’s coach and personally befriended many dating pioneers including Neil Strauss and Mystery before moving onto “Natural Game”.
Watch our video to learn how his perception of female attraction changed over the years as he transitioned from the heavily indirect, routine-based pickup philosophy of the late 90s to joining TNL and witnessing first-hand the epic advantages of direct-style Natural Seduction.
Click on the link below to watch it:
P.S. Want to be personally coached by me, Gareth, and my elite mentors for 8 months to unlock peak dating, social, and business results?
In my Lifestyle Design Academy, now open for enrollment until April 17th, you get the chance to have some of the world’s most experienced and in-demand specialists in many areas of lifestyle excellence by your side as you build your own Masterpiece lifestyle.
Through monthly calls, live Q&A panels, and dozens of missions and drills, these mentors will save you years of beginner mistakes by helping you eradicate poor habits from the start and effortlessly overcome sticking points as you advance in your journey.
It goes without saying that by holistically improving every aspect of your lifestyle, you’ll collaterally become a much more attractive ‘high-value’ man who has consistent opportunities to date and have sexy adventures with hot girls without feeling the need to constantly prove himself.
To learn more about the Academy and see how it can practically help you to build the life of your dreams, click on the link below:
If you do not possess these two qualities, you end up invisible.
Over the past month, you’ve heard me talking about the importance of having an elite social crew around you that proactively helps you to enjoy more sexual and financial success.
And in my latest emails and videos, I’ve shared many practical strategies and insights to meet such high-value people, invite them into your group, and build strong collaborative relationships with them,
But the truth is that no matter how religiously you apply my advice, no one will ever stick around if you’re not a likable and intriguing person in the first place.
It’s near impossible to build an epic, extraordinary lifestyle if you’re a socially-awkward, boring person.
In fact, most successful men and hot women out there spend time only with people who are stimulating and from whom they can always learn or experience something new.
It’s also not something you can fake by recording yourself doing cool adventurous stuff like skydiving or traveling to exotic locations and posting it on Instagram.
Real fascination is not really created by extraordinary experiences––it’s the way you approach and interact with reality.
If you’re committed to unlocking powerful charm, check my latest video linked below. In it, I reveal 4 life-changing habits anyone can practice to become irresistible to most people within months.
P.S. Looking to take your personal charm skills to the next level?
Inside my Lifestyle Design Academy, now open for enrollment until April 17th, 2022, we have an entire sub-course dedicated to developing elite charm & charisma skills: The Marshall Charm School.
Charm School is a large database with dozens of resources––sent to Academy students every week––including book recommendations, niche psychology & politics keynotes, poems, articles, scientific reviews, and videos that are guaranteed to help you stimulate your mind and develop a more objective, culturally-rich worldview.
What sets apart the LDA, however, is the incredible vastity of new people, specialists, and thinkers you’ll be exposed to during the eight months of mentoring.
This is no standard online course.
The LDA is a live digital program where you receive ongoing real-time coaching from me, a select group of world-class guests including my mentors, as well as literally hundreds of fellow lifestyle designers on your same path who love to collaborate and support each other.
Here’s how one of our newest members who just joined puts it:
This revolutionary, hybrid methodology of coaching is guaranteed to help you become the most interesting man in the room, in every room you go.
I’m a big advocate of them, but they’re just tools, although powerful ones.
The moment you elevate them to ‘absolute truths’ and become too obsessed and dogmatic about them, they lose their effectiveness and start damaging your life.
Trust me, I’ve been there…
Trying to live a celibate, stoic monastic life in my mid-twenties.
Meditating several hours every single day and restraining from all earthly pleasures.
I’ll let you decide how that went 😉
Paradoxically, this fanatical ‘all in’ approach to spirituality that many advertise is the exact reason why the majority of men never get involved with inner practices in the first place.
They don’t want to turn into dazed hippies dancing around campfires or restrict everything as if they live in a monastery.
If you are interested in getting started in spirituality but want to skip all the nonsense, watch my latest video below.
In it, I and our executive Inner game Coach, Shae Matthews, break down the most effective ways to kickstart your spiritual & character growth without having to subscribe to absurd dogmas.
P.S.Want to extend success to all aspects of your lifestyle including dating, inner game & spirituality, career, and sexuality?
Then be on the lookout for my upcoming Lifestyle Design Academy launching this Saturday, April 9th.
LDA is an 8-month live mentoring program taught through weekly live lectures with me on core lifestyle design concepts like social circle penetration, outsourcing your business, organizing and getting invited to elite events, traveling the world for free, dating 9s & 10s, befriending high-value mentors, building personal tribe & networks, and a lot more.
You also get access to several live masterclasses with my own mentors and coaches guiding you to take your learnings and results into the stratosphere, like our student J:
To learn more about how the Academy can help you build a masterpiece life, join my free 60-min ‘Lifestyle Hacking’ live webinar this Thursday, April 7th, at 8 pm (CET). This is a live coaching webinar, so spots are limited to guarantee the optimal teaching experience.
3 Steps To Build A Rockstar Lifestyle In 2022 (no b.s.)
Nothing saddens me more than witnessing men wasting their potential.
Most guys patiently follow the societal script, waiting for their turn, only to realize as the years go by that they’re still stuck in the same average, unfulfilling routine.
But life is not fair…
And unless you are willing to take action and start to assemble the type of destiny you want, no one else will ever do it for you.
Over the past seventeen years, as I coached thousands of men in person and tens of thousand online, I realized that there are three steps my most successful clients execute to get extraordinary results in both dating, friendships, and business.
First: they focus on what THEY want.
It might sound obvious to some, but most people still design their lifestyle to please and impress others.
If you’re only idea of an epic life is being a show-off Dan Bilzerian type of character who hangs out with celebrities and Victoria’s Secrets models at yacht parties, you might be in for some disappointments.
For starters, this type of baller lifestyle takes many years of financial and networking strategies to be set into motion, and, to be completely honest, it’s not something many enjoy in the long term.
True lifestyle design is about consciously building a life that YOU can enjoy without having to prove anything to anyone.
It can be as ‘simple’ as making your career location-independent and traveling the world while you earn and meet international friends and as wild as infiltrating and becoming the king of the local BDSM scene.
Here is how one of our students, I, describes this process:
Second: they forge alliances with others on the same path to accelerate growth
This separates those who build a rockstar life in a few months and those who take years or decades to start enjoying elite-level seductive results.
Despite what society and corporate culture advocate, true lifestyle success is not a cutthroat, individual competition––it’s a collaborative process.
And when you find people who are aligned with your goals, you can team up with them to instantly multiply your results, overcome obstacles together, and ultimately make your life more fun and adventurous.
For example, you could refer to each other clients and business prospects or pool your brains and creative energies to start organizing epic events like our student D…
Third: they automate & scale their hustle
If you do the above correctly, as time goes by, you’ll have created around you one or more social crews that operate independently without you having to put consistent effort into them. Your friends and allies now fully trust you and respect you and proactively try to help you improve your lifestyle even when you’re in a different country and don’t spend hours every day with them.
This is the coveted moment when you have rockstar-level success on autopilot, and so you can invest your time into repeating the process with new people to scale your life to Masterpiece levels.
That’s it,Alex!
Hope this helped give you clarity on how to finally craft an epic, abundant lifestyle of your own choice!
I cover this at great lengths in the Lifestyle Design Academy, my upcoming 8-month mentorship program launching on April 9th.
In the LDA, I and my team of elite guest coaches help you week-by-week to design your unique lifestyle blueprint and experience major peaks of social, sexual, friendship, and career success in 2022.
You also get to join––from day 1 in the program––a secret global network of hundreds of fellow lifestyle designers and ambitious men who are keen on collaborating to escape the rat race and experience true freedom and adventure.
To learn more about the program, join my free 60-min live webinar ‘Lifestyle Hacking in 2022’ by clicking on the link below:
Yet, lots of guys shrug it off and pretend the pain isn’t there…
Perhaps, they even start dating and hooking up right away with new girls to offset the sadness.
‘Sleep with ten new women until you forgot her’ –– old-school pick up artists used to say.
But inevitably, the pain of the breakup haunts them and has to come out somehow.
Truth is that cutting off someone from your life, who you’ve shared many years of emotional bonding with is a much more complex and long-term process than many think.
Letting go of your internal attachment to your ex is the true challenge.
To make peace with the grief. To immerse yourself into it until you come out purged of toxic feelings and assumptions of ownership and that she was ‘the one’ that got away.
Of course, you can also ignore everything I just said, skip the grieving part, move on, and secretly hope that she gets back with you in grand Hollywood fashion sometime in the future.
If you go this route, remember: in most cases, it’s not really her you miss. It’s the feeling of comfort of being in a relationship vs having to rethink your life when you’re single.
There is a reason you two broke up. Don’t ignore it.
For more in-depth advice on this delicate topic, watch my latest video linked below:
P.S.Next week, on April 9th, I’m going to re-open enrollments for my most successful online program: the Lifestyle Design Academy.
LDA is an 8-month live mentoring program, including weekly lectures with me and a cohort of elite specialists in lifestyle disciplines like sexuality, psychology, health, business, becoming a digital nomad, organizing VIP events, and more. The program is quite intense, but if you apply what we teach you, you’re guaranteed to experience massive upward spikes of social, seductive, and financial success within weeks of joining the course.
Here is what current alumni are saying about the Academy…
Interested in learning more? Click on the link below to get access to a free 30-min lecture from last year’s LDA:
Falling in love is one of the most beautiful yet fakest things men can experience.
I use the word ‘fake’ here with a purpose…
As most of us learn after entering a few relationships, there is a very thick line between a sudden, heart-bursting infatuation and a genuinely healthy romantic relationship.
For most cases, ‘falling’ for someone and loving them almost immediately has a lot less to do with the person than we think…
It’s often just the result of projecting neediness, excessive expectations, and our own romantic dreams onto the first person that sticks around.
A toxic, codependent relationship re-packaged as ‘destiny’ by the consumerist Hollywood narrative.
Because let’s be fair: a quick, effortless, ‘and they lived happily ever after’ kind of love sells a lot more than something built over time through hardship and small steps.
Something built on values that go beyond mere attraction and chemistry––values like trust and respect for the other person’s boundaries.
Sounds easy? It’s absolutely not. It’s hell at times.
But it is still more real than any rom-com out there.
To learn more on how to effectively select the right partner and make a romantic relationship last over time, watch my latest video linked below:
P.S. Less than 3 weeks before we re-open enrollments to our most successful digital program: the Lifestyle Design Academy.
LDA is an 8-month, intensive, remote mentorship where I and a crew of world-class guest coaches guide you with weekly lectures, drills, masterclasses, and action blueprints to help you holistically maximize your social, seductive, and career results without having to focus on each of these areas separately.
To learn more about this program and get access to a free 30-minute class taken from last year’s Academy curriculum, click HERE
Modern men largely associate dating success with ‘luck’.
Even if they don’t openly admit it, they don’t know any practical ways to meet new women, and so they passively wait for some random girls––often below their standards––to appear in their life and make a move first.
Think I’m exaggerating it?
Just look at your social circle.
It’s very common to find people who are single and obviously attracted to each other in the same group who never date because he’s too shy to ask her out.
Know what is even crazier?
Thinking you can build a great romantic and sex life through Tinder.
The whole idea that you’re not allowed to talk to a girl unless you fit into her perfect standards of beauty is flawed and renders guys even more static and insecure than they already are.
Plus, research confirms that up to 78% of Tinder users are men who will swipe right in almost every time.
Wanna guess how many times a girl will swipe on a guy? 4 times out of 100.
And that’s not even a guarantee she will reply to you, let alone accept to meet you on a date.
If you’re ready to leave this complicated, frustrating nonsense behind and learn two proven methods to meet girls without being a model check the video below.
In it, I will reveal to you how to finally take control of your dating life in 2022.
P.S.Looking to learn how to not only experience crazy success with women but also extend it to other core areas of your life like friendships, career, health, finances, and social circles?
In my upcoming Lifestyle Design Academy launching on April 9th, I share with you all the secrets that took me from good at cold-approaching to living an epic life filled with more social and seductive opportunities I can handle.
The crazy stuff?
Paradoxically, most of this success, including with girls, truly happens on autopilot once you put action where it actually matters.
To learn more about the program and get access to a free 30-min Masterclass taken from last year’s LDA, click HERE
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In dating as much as in life, words matter only to an extent.
It’s your actions that truly help you to get results in the long term.
Where am I going with this?
See, often with students, I notice how fear of talking to women is quite easy to overcome.
And so is the struggle to find interesting conversation topics, vibe with the girl, and successfully arrange a date with her.
Wanna guess when a large percentage of men statistically freeze in seduction?
When it’s time to close the deal and make a sexual move.
On one side, some men are uncomfortable with this because it triggers their innate fear of rejection. Most women are social creatures and will gladly talk and even flirt with men they’re not attracted to. By introducing touch and trying to escalate on her, you’ll immediately realize her true intent.
For the most part, however, lots of guys just don’t know how to sexualize things with women.
Sure, they might have some experience in drunk hookups at college parties or by luckily sleeping with a female friend in their social circle after years of knowing each other.
But they’re clueless on how to be direct and move things forward on dates with new girls without creeping them out.
If you too struggle to ‘turn on the heat’ and don’t know how to smoothly transition things from social to sexual, I’ve got good news for you…
You don’t need to go from 0 to 100 with this.
Mastering touch and physical escalation is a process learned in small increments. You can start by practicing with something as simple as a hug and progressively transition to more daring moves.
To learn more on this topic and discover how we personally train our students on workshops in the nuanced art of smooth physical escalation, watch my latest video linked below:
P.S.Want to work with us to rapidly create more abundance and opportunities with women in 2022?
Our workshop season is about to start! You can join me, Alex, Shae, Virag for 7 days of intensive, life-changing coaching that will give you all the tools to thrive socially and sexually for many years to come.
See, our programs are grounded in pure practicality, and so we take you out in the streets approaching and talking to hot women––while receiving constant feedback in real-time from coaches–– from the very first day of training.
Our hybrid combination of short daily masterclasses on core topics like seductive conversations, texting, social media, and advanced escalation coupled with continuous infield action guarantees that our students not only get to apply concepts right away but often experience epic dating success and start taking girls back to their hotel already within the first few days of the workshop.
The first training opportunity is our residential program running from May 9th-May 15th, 2022, in Budapest, Hungary. Half of the available spots are already sold, so if you want to join make sure to get in touch with us asap.
