Breakups can be traumatic experiences.
Yet, lots of guys shrug it off and pretend the pain isn’t there…
Perhaps, they even start dating and hooking up right away with new girls to offset the sadness.
‘Sleep with ten new women until you forgot her’ –– old-school pick up artists used to say.
But inevitably, the pain of the breakup haunts them and has to come out somehow.
Truth is that cutting off someone from your life, who you’ve shared many years of emotional bonding with is a much more complex and long-term process than many think.
The physical part, the ‘let’s stop seeing each other‘ is relatively easy yet only the tip of the iceberg.
Letting go of your internal attachment to your ex is the true challenge.
To make peace with the grief. To immerse yourself into it until you come out purged of toxic feelings and assumptions of ownership and that she was ‘the one’ that got away.
Of course, you can also ignore everything I just said, skip the grieving part, move on, and secretly hope that she gets back with you in grand Hollywood fashion sometime in the future.
If you go this route, remember: in most cases, it’s not really her you miss. It’s the feeling of comfort of being in a relationship vs having to rethink your life when you’re single.
There is a reason you two broke up. Don’t ignore it.
For more in-depth advice on this delicate topic, watch my latest video linked below:
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