26th January 2021
James Marshall

Direct Vs Indirect – The Best Seduction Style

On workshops, I often get asked what’s the best way to approach women: directly or indirectly?

My answer often surprises the students…

Directness is not a style of seduction, but a way of life.

You cannot shyly tiptoe through life, never daring to express your honest opinion, pleasing others instead of confronting them, and then expect to boldly approach a woman in the streets.

Think about that, in terms of how you’ve lived your life so far.

If you want to develop a brave, straightforward attitude, you must live authentically according to your will 24/7.

Make no mistake, being direct is not about bossing people around with arrogance either.

It boils down to two consequential steps:

First, develop your self-awareness to realize what you truly want in life, or in a given situation.

Second, express your honest intentions in clear, no b.s. way, while still taking into consideration other people’s feelings –– empathy is the key.

For a concise guide to developing a direct approach to your own life, refer to my latest video. Link below.

P.S. If you really desire to finally start living a reality that matches your social, romantic, and financial expectations, I’ve got good news for you.

On March 14th, 2021, I’ll be opening the enrollments of my Lifestyle Design Academy 2.0.

The Academy is TNL’s most successful program ever, with hundreds of positive success stories, and a practical method anyone can follow to start designing and bringing to life their own masterpiece lifestyle.

By joining the LDA brotherhood, you’ll learn not only how to achieve the external goals & success you’ve always fantasized about, but also how to develop your character and inner qualities so that you can finally start feeling worthy of more.

Keep checking your inbox in the coming weeks for more details on the LDA relaunch and heaps of more free life-changing content

3 Principles Everyone Starting Daygame Should Learn

14th January 2021
James Marshall

The Art & Practice Of Masculinity

Recently I’ve been wondering..Why is it that some guys come across as masculine and sexy while others struggle to be seen as attractive no matter what?

It is as if some men have an X-factor that gets girls attracted to them on the spot.

You’ve seen it too before…

Take famous actors like Sean Connery or Daniel Craig.

Very different looking, but they both nail the 007 part; what do they share in common?

They exude pure masculinity.

They don’t need to speak or act cool to prove themselves worthy, they know a woman is winning by spending time with them.

As a dating coach, I often come across guys who interact with women in very nice-guy, soft kinds of ways who need to be taught how to be more masculine in their demeanor…

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To their surprise, the way I approach this initially is through meditation.

That’s because true masculinity is obtained only by re-arranging a number of inner factors. It is not a matter of just toughening up, but mainly enhancing your awareness in key character areas such as love, compassion, conflict resolution, and more.

If you want to learn more about how to develop a healthy masculine mindset, check my latest video.

In it, joined by our executive coach Shae Matthews, I dive deep into the unexplored world of Masculine Archetypes, and how to re-integrate them into your persona. Link below to watch it.

P.S. If you want to learn a complete method of inner work that will teach you how to interact with the different aspects of your archetypal self, check my premium 6-week Awareness Meditation Course. In it, you will learn a system to effectively start your Inner journey towards a socially-free, more masculine, healthy version of yourself.

Click HERE to check how the course works.

Be A Man: Act Weak.

28th December 2020
James Marshall

Be A Man: Act Weak.

A wise man once said:

“Appear strong when you’re weak, and weak when you’re strong”.

Sun Tzu’s practical philosophy has shaped the mindset of entire generations of men seeking victory in a vast array of battlegrounds.

But there is one unique kind of battle that cannot be won by deceiving the enemy with cunning tactics…

The war with the Self.

If you try to fix important inner issues such as lack of confidence, social anxiety, or chronic fear of abandonment by acting tough, you’ll lose.

Why?

Because successful inner work is primarily about recognizing that there is nothing noble or manly in wasting chunks of your life burdened by emotional pain & trauma.

In fact, it takes real courage to realize that you’ve been living in reaction to some past events that happened to you one or more decades ago.

Or to accept that emotional wounds some nasty people inflicted on you haven’t been resolved yet.

But that’s how this specific type of conflict is won: by showing up and facing the enemy.

Watch my latest video to learn how to win your own inner battles and develop real bulletproof self-esteem that will stick with you for the rest of your life. Link below.

P.S. Fighting an army in a misty field is not recommended, you will fall into traps.

That is a good analogy to represent what most men who attempt the inner path face…Debris, chaos, fog.

It’s hard to understand anything at all in there, let alone solve the biggest struggle in your life.

But that’s not an impossible task if you got a map. Get yours through my most popular home study course which equips you to survey and balance your inner world HERE.

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25th April 2020
James Marshall

Uncomfortable Talking About Sex?

How comfortable are you talking about sex with a woman you’re attracted to?

Why Sex Is Hard To Talk About

How comfortable are you talking about sex with a woman you’re attracted to?

In today’s video I sat down with Theodora, one of our role-play models here at The Natural Lifestyles who joins us on workshops to work 1 on 1 with guys, helping them to be more comfortable expressing themselves sexually.

After coaching guys for many years I’ve observed a whole bunch of strategies that guys have to deal with the pressure that comes along with talking about sex.

But where does this pressure come from? I mean, nobody feels awkward about discussing their favourite movie, or what they typically order at Starbucks.

So why should sex be any different?

Misguided Beliefs About Sex

A large part of it has to do with sex being so taboo. After all, most of us are living in societies founded on religions which had strict views on sex. These have then evolved into social norms and stigmas about what is and isn’t acceptable.

And maybe part of it has to do with our evolutionary biology and the way we evolved to interact with each other socially.

But instead of delving into the theory side of things it's much more productive to talk about how this shows up in your life, and what to do about it.

One of the core areas I focus on in my online course,Sex God Masterclass, is your beliefs about sex. Whether or not you’ve ever explored this realm of your psyche I can guarantee they’re influencing how you act around women you want to sleep with, and as a result, how much sex you have.

If you’re interested in having an expert guide you through this process of self-discovery and give you the tools you need to change your beliefs, you can learn more about the course by clicking here.

Whatever the cause may be, talking about sex with a girl who you’re not currently sleeping with brings with it a degree of tension. You’re not sure if what you’re saying will offend her, or if it's rude to talk about it, or how that will affect your chances on sleeping with her in the future.

This underlying tension will then influence how you talk about sex.

“Just Act Natural”...

As humans we naturally shy away from anything that brings discomfort. So when you find yourself in a situation where sex is being discussed, maybe because you’re in a group discussion with her friends, or you pass by a lingerie store and she comments on a piece she likes, that discomfort will instantly hit you, forcing you to respond.

Some guys will ignore the topic altogether. Maybe they’ll say “oh, I don’t really like it, but I guess if it’s your thing that’s fine”. In essence this is a rejection of her expression of her sexuality. She’s trying to share her sexual world with you, and you’re basically saying “no thanks”.

Other guys will try to diffuse the tension through humour. Making crude jokes like “yeah, one time I saw a stripper wearing a piece just like” which, whilst alleviating the tension, again shuts down her invitation to talk about sex with you.

The best response is to act is a natural way.

Easier said than done, right?

I’m not going to give away all of my secrets today, but I want to assure you that there is room for growth here. Once you’re able to express your sexuality in a way that feels natural to you, you’re going to be opening up a lot of doors with the women you come across in life.

You’ll be able to show that you’re not embarrassed by sex, that you’re not ashamed of your sexual urges, and when it comes to being in the bedroom she’ll know it’s not going to be an awkward experience where you’re constantly making jokes to ease the tension, or even shaming her for sleeping with you.

Ever Feel Like You’re Not Good Enough For Women?

3rd July 2020
alex

Afraid Of Creeping Girls Out? Read this

Women suffer from approach anxiety too. Here is how to handle it…

Approach Anxiety: a female perspective

Often when I coach guys on how to meet gorgeous girls in the street, they feel shy and anxious at the idea of talking to attractive strangers.

It applies to both ends.

What most men ignore is that during the approach, most times, they’re not the only ones feeling anxiety…

Women feel it too!

If a guy is direct and projects his masculine intent the right way in the first few seconds of the interaction, the girl will be positively surprised and attracted, but, on some occasions, also a bit intimidated.

Your duty as a seducer is to help her to feel calmer and more at ease about meeting you.

Tension is a great tool to master to spark arousal and excitement in a conversation but to make it really effective you need to mix it with another important quality: calibration.

In my latest video––handpicked from TNL’s private past workshop infield archive––I take two of my courageous students in sunny Barcelona throughout their first-ever live infield session.

You’ll see how they create tension during the first approaches, and how I help them to reduce it in the next ones to make the girls more relaxed about meeting them.

Just click HERE to watch it.

How to become a more calibrated Seducer

If this is a sticking point you’re personally experiencing in your interactions with women and you’re ready to make the best out of dating life and ignite your personal transformation, now that things are slowly easing out…

Check out our new updated tour workshop dates by clicking HERE.

My next 4-day intensive seduction workshop is already happening on August 13-16th 2020 in Budapest, Hungary, and there is only ONE spot left to join.

We closely monitored the global situation, tourist flows, and health recommendations to make sure everyone can have a complete, and safe, life-changing experience.

You also have the opportunity to speak directly to me, or one of the coaches over a free-consultation call to make sure the coaching fits your own unique situation and challenges and design a personal seduction & lifestyle curriculum for a post-Corona world.

Just click HERE to get started.

Talk to you soon.

Alex

How To Read Her Signals

4th September 2020
alex

How To Read Her Signals

Making the right move on a woman is paramount to lead things from an interesting conversation all the way to the bedroom. But unless you’re able to calibrate your actions properly, and read the various signals she’s giving you, you’re doomed to fail…

Getting girls to teach you game

There is a famous saying in the seduction world…

If you’re a good listener, the girl will tell you how to close her.

In the past 2 years coaching for TNL, I’ve seen students struggling with this all the time…

Going for the number and leaving, when the girl is obviously free and down to spend more time together for a coffee, maybe even at your place 😉

Continuously changing surface-level topics, instead of diving deeper into one she seemed intrigued by.

On a date, talking endlessly, when it’s clear she just wants you to shut up and kiss her.

If this resonates with you and you want to stop missing out on solid opportunities, you have to understand something…

Being a good seducer is as much about leading and having the power, as it is about giving it away and letting the girl do the moves when needed.

The problem is, most guys get the timing completely wrong.

They physically escalate and increase pressure, when they should make the girl feel more comfortable - and thus creeping her out.

Reading women’s signals

What is her current emotional state?

Is she just socially polite or sexually invested?

Is she ready for me to escalate things to a more intimate level?

These are all questions you must be able to answer yourself before you make a move on a girl you like. Good news is that you don’t have to spend years earning a psychology degree, or practicing gimmicky lines, to understand what’s going on in a girl’s mind, because in most cases she will literally coach you on how to close her––if you’re capable of listening.

The Principle of Awareness

At TNL, we call this the Principle of Awareness––one of the foundational blocks of our very successful method of Natural Seduction.

For our students, being Aware means being receptive at all times to what is going on in people’s minds and bodies: firstly their own, and later women’s.

They achieve this capacity by going through an intense personalized training curriculum consisting of dozens of infield hours with a coach (2:1 student to instructor ratio) giving them feedback in real-time, internal spirituality & re-wiring drills, roleplay classes with female models, seduction theory, and a lot more.

Watch my latest video, to learn more about this. Click HERE to watch it.

And hit this link to find out more about my next live coaching opportunities.

Talk to you soon.

Alex

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