26th March 2020
James Marshall

Next level Lover Secrets (Video)

If you’re like most guys you want to feel like you can lead and create a good time for your lover in the bedroom. A guy that knows how to lead and create an exciting and fulfilling experience for a partner or partners will have a great skill and advantage when it comes to creating and maintaining attraction. Sex, sensuality and the ability to create romantic adventures has massive value and power to leave a positive emotional impact with those your share it with.

When it comes to being a great seducer and lover it is important to keep a focus on sharing sexual adventures worth remembering.

There are a lot of areas that you can explore when it comes to sexual, personal and PUA development. Being more sensual and capable as a lover is one of the most important if you truly wish to convey a high level of confidence in your ability to lead, satisfy and be well remembered by a lover.

Developing a well-rounded lover skill set is something that will definitely change your life for the better. In my opinion it is something that every man should have high on his list of personal development and sexual relationship goals. Ideally this learning curve is about opening yourself to a strong sense of sensual expression so that you can explore and share a deeper range of sexual and sensual variety. With practice this will develop a more extended capacity to be sensual, sexual, creative, intuitive, and confident. With more capacity and skill the whole experience of sex and sensuality can go to a new level.

Recognise where you’re at and start from there.

We all exist on some spectrum of skill and experience in being great lovers, and we all have potentials, strengths and weaknesses in different areas. The good news is that we can always learn to be better lovers. Like learning to cook or exercise it’s a life skill that will benefit you no matter who you are.

There are few investments in life that give us (and our lucky lovers) the returns that becoming a good lover will. The hard part of the process is recognizing that it takes time to get good at anything. It has been said in studies of mastery that it takes at least 10,000 hrs of experience to be really good at what you do. What this means is that you have some work to do practicing giving and receiving pleasure. The good news is that will some direction and support you can be very good in a short amount of time. SO what are some good starting points?

Work with both Sex and Sensuality:

Within the realms of intimate exchange there is a spectrum of sex and sensuality. Sex is often seen at the friction of genital contact. This is the more physical part of the spectrum whereas sensuality is more to do with exploring the senses and the potentials within them. Sensuality although also physical is about setting up a more subtle energetic feeling experience and psychological framework for experiencing love making and intimacy. Touch, sight, smell, sound, taste and mind are all senses that can be sensually explored and developed. A good lover will have the capacity to create very sensual as well as sexual experiences.
This is where things like knowledge of the body, massage and sexual psychology are very useful.

Get back in your body

A lot of people are so disconnected from their sensuality and sense of connection to their bodies. The concept of exploring a deeper level of sexuality can be a foreign and unexplored terrain. Especially if the ideas of being in the body, feeling and experiencing touch in a more subtle way, seem out of the norm or unknown.

It’s ok if you feel like this, it just means that you have some development and experience to go through.

For many lovers, embodiment is shallow and clunky. With little skill and experience in sensual embodiment, sex often becomes a rigorous, disconnected, friction based act. More aimed to get to the goal of coming hard and fast than appreciating and exploring the joy of making love, being sensual and deepening the range and kinds of pleasure possible between you and your lover.

Sadly this friction based sex alone often leaves us feeling dissatisfied, spent and empty like we have just eaten junk food. Some partners (especially women) are sexually blocked and unfortunately find sex to be a numbing experience. These people often see sex as something that is to be put up with in order to gain other favors like companionship, validation, comfort, security etc.

Ideally we want to be neither sex junkies (needing high intensity sensory overwhelm to be satisfied) or numb to the sexual experience (apathetic to or disconnected from our sex lives). As with most things in life this is about finding a balance and exploring that sweet spot that is the middle ground between sex and sensuality, friction and focus of mind.

Sensuality and sexuality is about exploring a journey of connection, altered states of sensation and consciousness and consensually playing out roles (e.g masculine, feminine, active, surrender, domination, submission etc) that release, balance and affirm parts of our psyche and the relationships we share.The doorway to sensuality is the body and touch. When you drop into a sensual state and or can lead someone else on a sensual journey it’s like opening another dimensions of our being to share.

So there you have a few tips that are useful for you to develop your sensual lover skills. If you have any questions let me know and hit up the comments or send me a general inquiry.I’m available for sexuality and inner game coaching and have just released a sensual massage product to get you guys inspired on your sensual lover journey. Get VIP updates and bonuses on Shae’s video course – Sensual Massage Secrets.Click HERE.

Get your Girl Back at the Club! (3 tips)

30th March 2020
James Marshall

Get your Girl Back at the Club! (3 tips)

Me: Give me your number just in case I lose you.
Girl: Ok.
Hold on…

(The mind’s anxious dialogue begins) Whoa, who’s that guy, why is she with him? Lightly touching his arm and smiling from ear to ear like he’s so impressive. Does he know game as well? Yeah, he must. Did she forget me? Should I say hi to remind her? Fuck, why is seduction so hard?

Sound familiar, don't worry guys. Time and time again, I went out at night and wanted a particular girl all to myself. I would meet a feminine, attractive, witty woman with confidence, who reminded me of why I got in seduction (for women like her), only to see her moments later giggling and flirting with another guy. It jived my emotions towards jealousy, then envy, then hope, etc. This is when I noticed, something needed to change...

Fast-forward dozens and dozens of situations like this to today, things have changed for me..

Me: “I will be around but just in case I lose you to a special new boyfriend, give me your number”.

Girl: haha ok.

(Random guy’s confused mind) What guy just walks a girl away while she’s in conversation? Does she know him? He’s a short fucker. Yeah they must know each other. Stupid slut.

Me: “I regret marrying you. My heart is in pain unless you mend it by saying I love you”.

Girl: “hahaha I love you. You are crazy!”

What a shift huh? After meeting many women out at night, I came to the understanding that often women want to flirt with many guys. A big reason women go out is to feel the validation of multiple men chasing her.

Even though we may have had a good connection, it doesn’t mean I own her or she owes me anything. Of course, she’s likely to flirt around the room before choosing a guy.

But it’s not just random chance who gets the girl. If I’ve had a good connection with her and then take the lead and keep several important principles in mind, then most of the time, other men are no real competition.

I manage to take a girl back from 2 much bigger and persistent guys using the following 3 concepts:

1. Stop engaging with the men she is talking to

My mindset is that all other guys are irrelevant to the interaction. The girl matters. Go right to the girl and engage her like you know her. Well, because you do. When your competition inevitably tries to engage you or her, dismiss him without aggression and focus on the girl.

2. “Move her. Move fast”

Before the girl even has a chance to process what’s happening, I move her after saying hi again. In some cases I literally pick her up but the important thing is to create physical distance between her and other men. Be aware that I would only do this to women I clearly had a good connection with. Which brings us to the the third point…

3. Flirtatiously set up a role-play to get her on my side.

Women love role-playing. Most conversations in clubs are boring and predictable. Women go out to have fun and live out fantasies, and playing roles is an important part of that. Part of how I create a unique connection, is to often set up fun role playing dynamics. Use your imagination, simple stuff like Husband/Wife, Boss/Secretary, King/Queen etc. These roles have automatic sexual tension and rapport built into them, allowing you to stand out and bypass all the boring small talk. This means when I reapproach I can jump straight back into role play; “ Is my wife on the verge of cheating on me?”.

Be playful with it and she will respond very well.

Follow these simple steps and you’ll find when you go out at night, it will no longer seem like a chaotic free for all. Instead you will be able to confidently meet, attract, and get back the women you speak to. Try out my tips and watch the woman of “his dreams”, fall back into your arms. If you have question about this topic or inquiry, please click HERE.

The one thing that holds you back from sexual success

30th March 2020
James Marshall

The one thing that holds you back from sexual success

The reason most men fail with women has less to do with their technical approach to them than their beliefs about their own worthiness. I’ve known men who’s timing was off, who’s flirtation was rudimentary at best, who dressed like dorks and had no money but still got top shelf women all the time.

I’ve also taught many men, who from societal judgement are successful, tall, good looking, charming, kind who (until we kicked them into gear), labored through frustrating loneliness and relationships with women they accepted out of scarcity.

Watch our shy, short Asian student work through his demons to success

Of course, having a working knowledge of seduction, delivery, presence, body language, logistics, escalation, all this is important. However, underlying the approach you use, the tricks you try is your own sense of self worth, entitlement and mission purpose. Without strength here, you will struggle endlessly against your own shadow. I think the roots of most men’s insecurities are deep and often complicated but there are two aspects that tend to dominate.

One is a nagging doubt that inherently you don’t have what it takes, that for some reason outside your control, you were given a shitty hand to play with. The other aspect is a misunderstanding about what women actually want from a man. We are sold certain standards through our society and media that equate male sexual success with looks, money and status.

The truth is women are generally after something much more valuable and rare, a man who can handle her. A man who makes her feel sexy or as the girl in the video says about Jack, to “Feel like a woman”. The paradox is that worthiness and confidence are not destination states. You don’t get them and that’s it. The process of cold approaching women, forces you to confront your real and imagined limitations and if done intelligently gives you new thinking tools to discern which are delusional bad mindsets and which are areas you need to work on in yourself.

This short film follows the journey one of our students Jack went through with us on a recent Euro Tour. Jack is a 5’3”, shy, inexperienced guy from Taiwan. After years of experimenting with other schools, he came to us with a firm commitment to finally solve this problem. Although as you see, he has a rough start, his plucky good humour and persistence pays off. It’s so gratifying as a coach to help guys like Jack who have great hearts and so much to offer women, finally crack the internal and real world codes for releasing their masculine potential.

If you’ve let those dark cyclical thoughts in your head of not being tall, rich or cool enough stop you from meeting the women of your dreams, take some inspiration from Jack and get out there to seize your dreams. And if you want to join our Euro Tour click HERE.

Top 3 Wingman Qualities

30th March 2020
James Marshall

Top 3 Wingman Qualities

The most important aspect of a good wingman relationship is that you are on the same team. This sounds extremely obvious but is an attitude that the vast majority of men don’t have. They compete with each other, pull each other down, hang shit on each other, and this extends to seduction opportunities.

1. Having his back

A simple example; James and me were talking to two Russian sisters.

Her: This shirt makes you look boring
James: [Smiles, doesn’t say anything]
Her: [Turns to me] Don’t you think his shirt is ugly!
Me: [Smiles] I think it suits him… I think you secretly like it coz it makes him look a sexy businessman. Is that your fantasy?
Her: Ohhh… Mr Executive [She blushes and playful slaps him] I might have to work late tonight… sir.

It’s simple, but I’m siding with him, and turning her playing jab into something they can flirt about.I shouldn’t have to say this, but a lot of guys can’t handle the social pressure when meeting knew people, and the only way they know how to deal with the tension is to pull other people down.

3. Releasing the social pressure and making the girl feel safe.

This is probably the most advanced aspect of being a good wingman. Any moment where you are interacting with the girl your wing is seducing, your goal should be making her feel, relaxed, safe, and included.

At the bar this means positioning your body so she can be part of the conversation, keeping a warm friendly energy towards her, releasing social pressure by smiling. Don’t try to be funny or put her down. For most girls this will put unnecessary awkwardness into the situation for no reason.

This is even more important when he brings her home. When they walk in, smile, introduce yourself, and remember that she is entering a strangers house. How you act in this situation can determine how relaxed she feels about staying. This is NOT the time for in jokes or trying to be funny.

So be polite, friendly, and make yourself scarce once she’s settled in. And if you need to get private couching, feel free to CONTACT US.

Approach Anxiety Made Simple

3rd August 2018
James Marshall

Approach Anxiety Made Simple

Does your positivity and confidence stays with you once you see the girl you want to talk to?

Seeing The Cycle

What do you do to get into a positive state to approach? Do you motivate yourself by thinking things like “I can do this” or “I want to feel good?”.

Even though you have good intentions, I’m sure that this positivity doesn’t stick around once you see the girl you want to talk to.

You probably start getting thoughts like “she’s not going to like me” or “i don’t know what to say”. Then your throats start to tighten, your chest contracts and you label this reaction by saying “I’m anxious”.

The cycle goes around and around as you continue to see women you want to approach, feel the contraction and eventually give up, feeling like you’re trapped in this cycle of ‘approach anxiety’.

If that sounds like you, I’ve got a simple inner game hack that can help you overcome approach anxiety and start feeling good about approaching women.

Opposites

So how do you stop feeling anxious? You simply find how you run the patterns of contraction and reverse them by doing the opposite. As soon as you feel that contraction, ask yourself:

“What would it be like to experience the opposite?

“What would it be like if i could start to feel like I do when I’m happy, or relaxed, or really calm?”.

Start moving the energy around your body in a way that opens your throat, your heart, cycling it back through the source over and over. It can help to visualize a colour during this process, associating it with the positivity you’re creating.

I guarantee you, if you do that for a few minutes, you’re going to start to feel fantastic, and it’s going to start to reprogram your brain, your emotions, so that you don’t feel those negative contractions of anxiety and fear anymore, and instead start to feel energy, excitement, spontaneity and possibility, or at the very least just neutrality and relaxation.

Deepening The Practice

One of the essentials of being able to tune into your body and energy is knowing how to meditate.

In today’s world we’re taught to pay the most attention to our thoughts. What we think becomes who we are and in essence, the true way to experience the world.

But this tunnel vision blocks out all of the incredible things happening in your body and heart that you can access to dramatically shift your day to day experience of the world.

If meditation is something you’ve never tried before or a point of frustration, you need to get your hands on the Marshall Meditation Method. Instead of having to mess about with clunky apps or endure weird quasi-religious chanting, we’ve broken the process down into a simple and easily approachable man’s man guide to meditation. If you’d like to learn more be sure to click here.

Approach anxiety can absolutely cripple you, but only if you let it. Remember that you’re in the driver’s seat, and so the way that you perceive your anxiety and how you choose to deal with it are in your hands.

Why Women Are AFRAID Of Being Approached

21st August 2018
James Marshall

Why Women Are AFRAID Of Being Approached

The Nightmare You’re Not Seeing

When you’re first starting out at seduction it’s easy to be so focused on your own fears and

anxieties around meeting women that you forget about how a woman is experiencing YOU.

It’s common for guys to consciously or subconsciously put women on a pedestal, which leads them to think that hot women are flawless, unstoppable and insanely confident to the point that a mere mortal such as yourself would never be cause for concern.

Yet the thing that costs most beginners dates and sex is oftentimes their inability to recognize and acknowledge how a woman is feeling. It’s rather a predicament for her. At first glance, you would think that women would be open to expressing their doubts or fears.

Let’s say you’re asking a woman for her number.

It seems simple enough, you’ve been chatting for 4-5 minutes and seem to get along, so why not ask her on a date?

Yet in her mind she’s recalling all of those times she’s given her number out to guys she’s just met and regretted it soon after. Every woman has had to deal with some guy she gave her number to who wouldn’t stop texting and calling her, and had to block his number, or in the days before smartphones, change HER number (a major headache).

So that’s what’s running through her head, but it’s normal to be afraid of even admitting that.

She doesn’t want to appear stupid or naive.

She doesn’t want to hurt your feelings.

And most important of all, she doesn’t want to say somewhat that might trigger you and lead to a violent outburst with her as the victim, a realistic concern for a lot of women.

Women Get Approached All The Time

Even when you’re initially approaching her, you need to understand that this likely isn’t the first time she has been approached.

It could have been a guy who was asking for the time, or directions to Starbucks. Seems innocent enough…until he creepily asks for her number out of nowhere.

Maybe it was a homeless guy asking her for money, who then EXPLODED when she ignored him or said no.

Not to mention crazy people roaming around on the street, who are frightening simply because they don’t recognize that they’re crazy and the effect they’re having on other people.

This is why getting coaching is so important. Overcoming your approach anxiety and being able to approach women are just the first steps.

You then need to learn how to develop the internal and external awareness that enable you to pick up on the subtle cues and hints women are giving you, so you can then adapt and adjust.

On workshops we teach guys how to do this, teaching them meditation to raise their awareness, alongside listening in to approaches using live microphones then breaking them down afterwards to help them understand what was REALLY going on between the lines.

And if that’s not an option for you, at the very least you should invest in our online course, The Marshall Meditation Method which I’ve specifically designed around approaching women. You’ll not only learn an important life skill but also have the tools to drop the stories and fears you keep telling yourself and instead focus on her experience of being approached by a strange man, aka you. If you want to learn more about meditation and how my method works be sure to check out this link.

The Art Of Seduction

If you’re still under the impression that pick-up lines and routines work, or that somewhere out there is a magic system that’s going to give you a 100% success rate (“all for a low price of $49.99!”), understand that each and every moment with a woman will be different.

Copying down lines or responses you hear in my in-field videos isn’t going to work, because I’m responding to not only what she’s saying in that moment, but her body language, her tone of voice, and the subtext of our conversation thus far.

As an example, two women might hesitate to give me their number, yet one of them has been living in that city her whole life, whilst another is only going to be there for another 2-3 days. The first may be concerned about getting harassed endlessly by a strange hairy man, whilst the other might not be able to justify giving me her number if she’s leaving town soon.

Ultimately this is why seduction is an art form rather than a series of tools you can pull out at any time the moment calls for it.

Creating Your Personal Elevator Pitch

27th March 2020
James Marshall

One Simple Hack That Will Revolutionize How You Talk To Women

Remember: women feel social pressure too. If she’s suddenly been approached by a cool guy who isn’t trying to impress her or talk her head off, that sends the message that he’s not just another average guy.

Even if you don’t know what to say…

Picture yourself walking down the street, minding your own business. Suddenly someone runs up to you randomly, a complete stranger you’ve never met and starts rambling. Not just rambling, like talking nonsense, but speaking so fast you can barely get a word in.

And before you’ve responded or had a chance to ask them a question, they’ve already moved on and started talking about something else.

Before long it becomes apparent that they have no intention of having an actual conversation with you, or worse, actually want to take the time to find out something about you.

When guys first start approaching, this is something they subject women to ALL. THE. TIME.

And we see it on workshops consistently, no matter which country we coach in, where the guy comes from, 365 days of the year.

Understanding Social Pressure

Whenever two people are interacting, there is an ebb and flow of the conversation that will demonstrate the level of comfort.

If you’re chatting with your mom, you’re not going to be too concerned about making a good impression, hoping that she likes you and you get to see her again.

You’re just going to be casually chatting away, and probably have never even thought about the meta level of the conversational dynamic. But if its a super hot girl you’re talking to, that is a complete stranger and could brutally reject you, suddenly the stakes are higher.

Enter social pressure.

Your throat tightens up. Your heart is pounding in your chest, and your palms start to sweat.

Instead of letting the anxiety get to you, it’s possible to just sit with the tension.

This means speaking slowly.

This means intentional pauses.

This means awkward silences.

Here’s The Key:

Women feel social pressure too. If she’s suddenly been approached by a cool guy who isn’t trying to impress her or talk her head off, that sends the message that he’s not just another average guy.

He might even have something to offer her.

And suddenly she feels social pressure. She starts filling the awkward silences for you, asking you questions about yourself, maybe even trying to impress you.

Just like that, with one simple shift, you’ve all of a sudden gone from bumbling mess to attractive guy.

Sound too easy?

Then try this. Next time you’re talking to a girl, even if it’s at work or in class, just try shutting up. As soon as you feel the impulse to talk, notice it, then say nothing.

And watch the magic happen.

Remember that you can start to break your social pressure RIGHT NOW with Marshall Meditation Method online course. Click here.

How To Deal With High Energy People

30th March 2020
James Marshall

How To Deal With High Energy People

If everyone around you is talking, making jokes, jumping around, it can seem like they’re the life of the party, having all of the fun, and you’re kind of a wet blanket who’s bringing everyone down.

Even if you’re an introvert and ‘low energy’

Today’s question comes from Kevin in Vienna who asks:

As an introverted guy, I feel nervous and awkward around high energy or extroverted girls. How do I handle these situations?

Being an introvert myself I know how uncomfortable it can get being in a social situation with people who are high energy and feeling really overwhelmed.

This can be especially hard when it comes to girls who want to race off and explore the world, or who talk non-stop, or are constantly distracted by people and things around them.

It can seem like they have an endless abundance of energy. So why would a girl like that want to hang around with a low energy guy?

Accepting Yourself

Firstly, if you’re a low energy guy, you need to accept it.

There’s no use fooling yourself into thinking that you can just ‘pump your state’ and suddenly match the energy of people who are naturally extroverted.

Not only will you burn out very soon, but it will become apparent to everyone around you that you’re putting on a facade to be more like them, rather than just being comfortable in your own skin.

But sometimes, being yourself CAN be uncomfortable, right?

What are you supposed to do with all of that nervous tension that’s building up inside of you?

How do you cope with the thoughts running through your head telling you that she’s getting bored or wishes you were more fun?

Is it even possible to shift away from that paralysis and towards taking action, like getting her number, or if it’s a date, going for a kiss?

Yes, it is. But the solution may surprise you.

Basking In The Awkwardness

Instead of reacting to the awkward feelings that come up when you’re around high energy people, have you ever thought about just sitting in it?

I know it may sound counter intuitive, because if something is uncomfortable, we’re biologically programmed to get away from it.

Next time you’re in a social situation around lots of high energy people, try this:

Begin by acknowledging to yourself, even in your mind, that you’re uncomfortable.
Notice that you have tension inside of you that says “if i don’t do something right now, something bad is going to happen”
Wait for the tension to resolve.

Sound too good to be true?

I’m sure it does! Let me tell you though, I’m frequently getting myself into situations that make me feel awkward and uncomfortable. Even clothes shopping can freak me out; as soon as I walk into the store I have these cool chicks asking me all of these questions when I don’t even know what I want!

But then all I do is acknowledge that the tension is there, that I’m uncomfortable, and let it pass. If it seems too hard for you right now, I’d suggest checking out the Marshall Meditation Method. This is an online course designed to teach you meditation even if you’ve never learned how before.

The reason why meditation is so useful in these situations is because instead of not knowing what to do with all of the tension inside of you, suddenly you have the tools to just let it be there.

And the more you accept those feelings and make way for them, the sooner they will shift and change and move to something else.

In real life, this looks like someone else doing something to resolve the tension. Maybe someone will crack a joke, or the girl will ask you a question.

So make sure you try it next time you’re in an uncomfortable situation, and let me know how it goes!

Suicidal Thoughts: The Hidden Pain of Young Men

30th March 2020
James Marshall

Suicidal Thoughts: The Hidden Pain of Young Men

Truth is, you can’t instantly be the successful guy with the suit and rolex and hot blonde when you’re an 18 year old. Bottling up those other feelings generally turns guys to addictions like alcohol and drugs, violence against themselves or others, turning the feelings inwards into depression or in the worst cases, suicide.

The Struggle of Emotion

There is a huge stigma against men speaking out about their emotions, displaying weakness or that they can’t cope with what’s happening to them. As men, we’re expected to be tough, be strong, and feel pressure to constantly prove ourselves. Truth is, you can’t instantly be the successful guy with the suit and rolex and hot blonde when you’re an 18 year old. Bottling up those other feelings generally turns guys to addictions like alcohol and drugs, violence against themselves or others, turning the feelings inwards into depression or in the worst cases, suicide.

Throughout my teens and early twenties I experienced some very intense phases of depression. In those moments it can really feel like there is no way out, that things aren’t going to get better, and my habit was to seek out reinforcement of that idea but surrounding myself with negative influences. Having experienced those periods in my life and worked through them has allowed me to see that it is entirely objective; the experience itself is real, but the physical, mental and emotional aspects can change and evolve in a positive way.

When you’re young and inexperienced with women, particularly coming from a place of scarcity, it’s very easy to get tunnel vision and think you’ve found ‘the one’. Losing that girl or getting rejected can be absolutely devastating. Yes, heartbreak is a fucking bitch. In reality there is no ’the one’. There are multiple people you will meet throughout your life who you will share a deep and intimate bond with. The reason you cling onto one woman is because of the scarcity mindset; thinking that if you don’t get this one girl, you’ve fucked your once chance up and it will never happen for you.

Spreading Your Wings

Instead of focusing on one woman, get out into life and explore. Try on different personalities, different behaviours, different hobbies and interests, different friend groups, and especially different women. This will help you to get closer to what your passion really is, finding out who you really are and want you really want.

If you are feeling suicidal:

Talk to somebody about it, speak about it candidly. A family member or a professional (most countries have free hotlines you can call to talk to someone if you’re feeling suicidal).
Wait one more day. And then wait one more day. And then one more day. Don’t look it as a long term thing, think about your survival on a day by day basis.
Return back to the simple things in life that make you happy. Go for a walk, enjoy the sunshine and nature, interact with animals, eat some healthy, wholesome food.
If you’re particularly hung up on one girl, go out and meet some new girls, for the specific purpose of having fun and having sex.

And if you’re in a position to go to the next level by really conquering these tormenting thoughts, my online course the Marshall Meditation Method is designed to teach you a simple yet profound meditation system designed to draw your focus away from negative thoughts and into the present moment. Make sure you check it out by clicking here.

For now, stay strong.

But don’t be Tough.

James

Women Who Don’t Give Out Their Phone Number

31st March 2020
James Marshall

Women Who Don’t Give Out Their Phone Number

Rather than thinking “oh, she said no when I went for the number because she doesn’t want to go on a date with me”, ask yourself: What other reasons could she have for saying no?

and what to do about it!

If you’ve ever asked a girl for her number and she say’s no, it can be one of the most soul crushing things ever. Nothing sucks more than having a smooth chat only to be thrown an abrupt curveball out of nowhere.

But why do women say no when you ask for their number?

Is it because they don’t like you?

Is it because they have a boyfriend they aren’t telling you about?

Or is it something much more complex, intricate and confusing that only the infamous dating coach and natural seducer James Marshall can deduce?

Let’s find out.

Cracking The Code

When it comes to seduction, there is rarely a situation that is a complete carbon copy of the other.

Even though pickup lines and routines are only practiced by guys in their 40’s who ‘just can’t let go of the old ways’, a lot of men still hold onto the idea that there is a one size fits all approach to certain situations.

That there is a perfect opener.

Or a perfect way to ask for her number.

Or the perfect first text to send afterwards.

Here at The Natural Lifestyles we always focus on taking a step back from this focus on situations and instead look at the meta of a situation.

So rather than thinking “oh, she said no when I went for the number because she doesn’t want to go on a date with me”, ask yourself: What other reasons could she have for saying no?

The Creepy Texter

A lot of women have a story about this one guy in their life. No, he wasn’t the charming romantic who swept her off her feet.

Instead, he was the guy who she innocently gave her number to because at the time she thought he was cute, or he made her laugh.

Emphasis on the innocent here. She wasn’t hearing wedding bells or picturing their family home, it was just done on a whim, a spur of the moment kind of thing.

Yet because most men are coming from a place of complete SCARCITY and have very limited options with women, getting a woman’s number = sex.

All they need to do is pester her enough times until she finally submits.

So they text her.

And then text her some more.

When she doesn’t respond, they call.

And then when there is no answer, you know what the

y do?

That’s right. They leave a voice message.

Then send a text.

You know.

Just in case the voicemail didn’t work.

So suddenly she’s gone from giving out her number to some guy she barely knows who is now constantly harassing her.

The last thing she wants to do is give him the impression that she’s interested, so she doesn’t respond.

But instead of him getting the hint, he just thinks she’s playing “hard to get” and so texts him even more.

Talk about a nightmare.

Calling It Out

Since I’ve been doing this for many, many years, I’ve heard countless stories like this from women about their experiences with men.

So when I hear “I don’t give my numbers to strangers”, I don’t interpret that as “I don’t want to date you”, but rather “I’ve done that before and deeply regretted it”.

In this instance a little reassurance goes a long way.

Just the fact that I mention this to her is a huge weight off her shoulders.

If you want to hear more about my origin story and how I eventually became the world’s leading dating coach, you can read all about it in A Natural History. It’s an autobiography chronicling my early days starting out as a seducer, not to mention all of the mistakes I made along the way.

Admittedly, I may have had a creepy texter phase too, but you’ll have to click here to find out more…

The Sixth Sense

What this really boils down to is developing a sixth sense, a seducers empathy if you will, when you’re interacting with women.

Know that they’ve had to deal with a whole range of bizarre behaviour from men which was totally unwelcome, and for some women that makes them incredibly hesitant when meeting new men.

Especially if you’re two strangers who have just met on the street like I was meeting this redhead in Prague.

So next time you’re having a morning after with a girl, maybe ask her about some of the experiences she’s had with men. Her answers will likely shock you…

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So when it comes to navigating the sensual oceans that exist between lovers, where do we start?

Recognise where you’re at and start from there.

Work with both Sex and Sensuality:

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1. Stop engaging with the men she is talking to

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3. Flirtatiously set up a role-play to get her on my side.

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