The Age Old Question Most Men Are Dying To Know The Answer To
I have to confess, I find it incredibly funny just how much men obsess over their appearance thinking it’s going to get them laid.
Guys spending thousands of dollars on suits.
Obsessing over their hair for hours on end.
Taking their shirt off to show off their washboard abs in the middle of winter.
Somewhere along the way as we were evolving as humans, the genes got mixed up or a social meme developed where men suddenly started believing that because they are drawn towards women who are physically attractive, then women must work exactly the same way! Of course! It’s all so simple!
The mystery has finally been solved! All you have to do in order to attract a really hot woman is to be really hot yourself!
Excellent. We can all give up on this hard seduction business and simply hit the gym. Why risk getting rejected by approaching when you can just workout to the point where you look SO good that women will approach YOU?
The Harsh Truth
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this simply isn’t how women work.
Granted, some women will go out on the prowl at night seeking a hot stud to take home for a quick romp in the sack.
But I’m yet to have seen a woman walk up to a complete stranger on the street and compliment him on how attractive he is.
And I’ve seen thousands of men who could easily be models get harshly rejected and forgotten by women because they lacked the fundamental skills of dating.
The truth is, that whilst women do care about how men look, there is a lot more at play for them then simple appearances.
For example, how you make her feel. You’ll notice that my online course, The 5 Principles of Natural Seduction, mentions nothing about buying a slick leather jacket or growing a hipster beard. It’s all about focusing on the underlying principles, the fundamentals of how seduction works, moment to moment, when you’re talking to a woman.
Developing an emotional connection. Expressing your sexual intent. Being able to pull the trigger.
All of these things are fundamental if you’re going to be seducing women.
The reason that certain ‘styles’ or ‘looks’ work is because women associate that image with the bad boy they knew in high school, or the suave charmer from their favourite movie who’s lines they’ve memorised.
Guys who, coincidentally, are conveying the principles of seduction in their own way.
Keeping Up Appearances
It is important to maintain a standard of dress and grooming when you’re meeting women and going on dates. This means dressing in a way that conveys your personality, and taking care of your appearance such as trimming your beard and not having funky breath.
But what is going to make a much bigger difference is your attitude towards women and how they see you.
Forget the idea that women are ‘checking you out’. Maybe you’re wearing a pair of glasses that remind her of her Dad. Maybe you kind of look like her high school crush. Or maybe you have ketchup on your face.
If you’re banking on women finding you attractive physically before you speak to them, you’re going to have to be incredibly patient with seduction.
Instead, try this on for size. Accept the idea that women don’t find you attractive.
It might sound counter intuitive, but the whole idea behind this is that instead of relying on your looks, you’re instead focusing on things that are actually in your control. Your approach skill set, your mindsets, your internal beliefs.
Through expressing who you are as a man, you’re going to be forming real connections with women. If you’re relying solely on your looks, she’s just going to walk away as soon as she sees how little confidence you have, or run along to a more handsome man who’s just walked in the room.