Sometimes when you’re ready to ask a girl out, it can feel like all of this pressure has been building up until this one single moment. Part of you is expecting that it’s not going to go as planned. As though hearing her say “sure, here’s my number” seems almost too easy.
(Without Making A Fool Of Yourself!) A student recently asked me a question about approaching girls when they’re bunched together in groups. Not just 2 friends walking together, but a bigger group of say 4 or more people. It’s natural to find the idea of approaching a group of women incredibly nerve wracking, because you’re […]
Struggling to pin down what this odd combination of emotions, thoughts and sensations is, where it is, and how it always seems to make us do crazy, stupid things.
This whole fear that men have around other men ‘getting ahead’ of them is really to do with insecurity. Men are afraid to face up to the idea that there is some room for improvement.
Somewhere along the way as we were evolving as humans, the genes got mixed up or a social meme developed where men suddenly started believing that because they are drawn towards women who are physically attractive, then women must work exactly the same way!
Rather than thinking “oh, she said no when I went for the number because she doesn’t want to go on a date with me”, ask yourself: What other reasons could she have for saying no?
Truth is, you can’t instantly be the successful guy with the suit and rolex and hot blonde when you’re an 18 year old. Bottling up those other feelings generally turns guys to addictions like alcohol and drugs, violence against themselves or others, turning the feelings inwards into depression or in the worst cases, suicide.
If everyone around you is talking, making jokes, jumping around, it can seem like they’re the life of the party, having all of the fun, and you’re kind of a wet blanket who’s bringing everyone down.