Sorry, I have a boyfriend…

Can you seduce women who are in committed relationships? If so, what are the methods to effectively handle the most common objection in Seduction? Read this to find out

Four words no man wants to hear

If you have been living and breathing seduction for several years as I have, you probably know that the better you get, and the more dates you’ve been on, the more you can start to sort of see through the Matrix and predict” female behavior.

Every time a girl gives you trouble, you can refer to this huge mind-bank of past seductions and answer in a way that moves things forward.

But in my experience as a TNL coach, there is one situation when both total beginners and even more advanced guys become confused and don't know what to do...

The moment when the adorable girl they just stopped in the street cuts them off with four very feared words:

I have a boyfriend

These words have been confusing men into researching the most effective & sneaky strategies to seduce women who are in committed relationships since the dawn of time.

Usually, guys see this as a very black-and-white kind of scenario…

Either she’s open to cheating on her partner, and so there’s reason to continue the interaction, or she is loyal, you’re totally wasting your time and should retreat immediately.

Let’s analyze all your options briefly…

When it comes to successfully seducing girls in relationships you will often encounter three types of scenarios.

The first scenario is a girl who doesn’t mention her boyfriend at all, or briefly talks about him but keeps being flirtatious and acting as if she was single and available.

With this kind of girl, all you need to do is treating like a normal seduction without making a big deal out of her relationship status. 

That means proposing her the idea of a date, taking her number, and then hitting her up to organize the meet up without mentioning the boyfriend AT ALL.

The second kind of situation you might find yourself in is a girl who is obviously attracted, happy, and turned on at the idea of dating you but feels a bit guilty about going on a date with another man

The key here is leaving the girl time to get to know you and relax in your presence, so she can make the best decision possible for herself without you forcing it on her in any way.

In this case, I recommend you do not put lots of pressure on her by organizing a very romantic date in a cool bar at candlelight, but treat the whole experience as something very relaxed and light-hearted (e.g go for a tea, or just have a cool walk around the city).

No matter how good you are, many women will still say NO

Finally, you will also meet plenty of women who are very loyal and adamant about not cheating on their partner.

While in this case, you have very little room to maneuver and nothing romantic or sexual might happen in the short-term, you can still gain many incredible benefits by befriending a girl in a serious relationship.

For example, she can become your wing-girl, a business collaborator, a gatekeeper to more hot women, and even a future lover, if you know how to handle her.

This is the topic of my latest video I just released: what to do when she has a boyfriend.

Check it out by clicking on this link.

Hope this more advanced kind of content helps you and inspires you to try new things in order to become a more attractive guy and waste no good opportunities.

If you want to take your progress to the next level and truly transform yourself from the ground-up into the best seducer you can be, you can join one of my upcoming 4 or 10-day Residential workshops.

The TNL team, including myself, offer the most élite and comprehensive seduction & lifestyle design curriculum available to man in 2020 including, but not limited to, areas like Meditation, Inner Game, Approach Systems, Texting, Date Protocols, Sexuality, etc.––with a 2:1 student-to-instructor ratio, currently unmatched in the industry.

Click HERE to check the next training opportunities.

Talk to you soon,

Alex

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Dealing With Rejection(s)

Poor Voice = Poor Connection

Before you learn what to say to women, you need to be heard by women. Let’s start with that…

Why women ignore you

Yes, I do.

 “Thanks.

Wow.

Frankly, I think that most of us, me included, have been in the uncomfortable situation of initiating a conversation with a girl who often goes silent and replies in monosyllables.

Men dread this type of situation, and so they try to make up for it by using what the Seduction Community calls “plowing”, a stream of consciousness-like conversation technique in which you are supposed to talk endlessly to eventually hit an interesting topic and win her attention back.

Now, I’m not against any of that, but I think that does not answer the most important question…

Why is she ignoring you?

It might shock you but in my many years of coaching for TNL, I have realized that the solution to this situation is as easy as doing two things: speak slower, and articulate your words more clearly.

Often women do not engage in the conversation just because they do not understand what you’re saying or talking about. 

One thing is just speaking to someone, another one is being heard. And if you want to have people engage with you more you must make sure your voice and tonality are matching your intentions.

Training your voice

It all begins by assessing how good your current Vocal Projection is. 

That is your ability to speak clearly and powerfully enough without straining your vocal cords. 

Projection is not just about basic volume and power, but also very important to make your words and sentences more impactful at an emotional level.

Enunciation.

Articulation.

Wordsmithing.

We’re looking at developing your voice from different angles, making it not just louder or more attractive, but also more effective.

The first bit of coaching advice I have for you is to just speak slower

Perhaps this sounds just like common sense to you, but I can guarantee that unless you’ve received some vocal training in the past––as an actor or singer––you’re probably often speaking at a much faster pace than you need to.

Making a conscious effort of speaking slowly brings many incredible benefits to your communication. 

Firstly, it makes your voice sound deeper.

It goes without saying that a nice, deep, voice is much attractive to women than a high-pitched, squeaky one.

Secondly, it helps you express your full range of emotions better. This is very important for guys who often sound too flat or “boring” in their conversations as well as men who have problems communicating their sexual intent.   

To find out my favorite vocal training exercises, check out my latest video by clicking HERE

I hope this clip helps you to realize how an external sticking point becomes way easier to get rid of when you’re developing your Inner world in conjunction.

This is one of the most unique and distinctive features that make the TNL coaching methodology so well-rounded and effective for many different men who are joining our programs with very diverse goals.

While most seduction companies nowadays either concentrate on pure techniques and outer drills or solely on inner spirituality work, such as breaking free from childhood trauma, we integrate all of them into the most comprehensive model of seduction, masculine embodiment & lifestyle ever created.

If these are areas of your life you consider yourself not fully happy with at the moment and are willing to invest time & resources to pro-actively rewrite your future social & romantic success, consider joining one of my upcoming workshops.

Click HERE to check the next training dates. 

I wish you all the best,

Jon

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