The Negative Side of Having a Shitty Social Circle
There’s a little secret I know about you.
If my hunch is correct, I’m the only one that knows it.
Maybe you’ve told a friend or two.
But I’m guessing it’s just you and I who are in on this one.
And I have some news for you.
I’m now sharing it on the internet, for the whole world to see.
Are you scared?
You should be.
See, I know that because you’re reading this very article, you want to become a better version of yourself.
There. I said it. It had to be done.
No More Hiding
Men have this incredibly weird stigma around self improvement, especially in countries like Australia where I grew up.
For some reason as soon as someone in the ‘group’ wants to expand, to grow, to set a new course in their life everyone else raises arms and becomes determined to do whatever it takes to keep them in their place.
You’ll see this happening on social media all of the time. Guys ripping on their friend for having something as simple as a well lit, professionally shot profile picture.
Heaven forbid that he actually try to make a good impression. I suppose the ‘entry requirement’ for that social circle is having a lame selfie that was taken at 3am when you were drunk as a profile picture.
Breaking The Norm
This whole fear that men have around other men ‘getting ahead’ of them is really to do with insecurity. Men are afraid to face up to the idea that there is some room for improvement.
As a dating coach I especially encounter this a lot when it comes to men’s romantic lives.
It’s common for men to greatly overstate their abilities and success with women, because anything less would be to admit a flaw in their masculinity.
In extreme cases like Australia it actually makes you less of a man in some people’s eyes if you aren’t “killin’ it with the ladies”.
That’s why I know that you’re different. The very fact that you’re here tells me that you are at least willing to admit that there is some room for improvement.
Maybe you can even admit that you aren’t satisfied with your dating life.
Perhaps you would even go as far as saying you need help.
And that’s ok. That’s what we’re here for.
Getting The Help You Need
I often have to remind guys that very few men actually have someone in their everyday life to teach or demonstrate dating skills to them.
Unless you’ve just been genetically gifted as a natural, or had a Dad/Uncle/Brother/Friend show you the ropes, it’s ok to be clueless.
It’s not like there is some Dating Skills 101 class offered up in universities these days that you just decided to skip out on because you had more important priorities like playing Xbox.
This is why I’ve created the online course The 5 Principles of Natural Seduction, which is designed to teach you everything you need to know about seduction. It’s a comprehensive 5 week program that begins with meditation to help with your anxiety, and ramps up to more complex topics like emotional connection and escalation.
You can learn more by clicking here.
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Cutting The Ties
When all’s said and done, sometimes you need to cut ties with those who are holding you back.
A lot of guys are uncomfortable about even entertaining this notion, especially if they have life long friendships that need to be let go.
But what are your options?
You can continue having that person, or those people in your life, and keep playing small.
You can cut them out completely.
Or you can try to bring them along with you, which can sometimes make getting ahead in life even harder because you now have EXTRA resistance to deal with.
If this resonates with you at all, maybe it’s time to sit down and think about who you need to let go of.