“Just Act Natural”...
As humans we naturally shy away from anything that brings discomfort. So when you find yourself in a situation where sex is being discussed, maybe because you’re in a group discussion with her friends, or you pass by a lingerie store and she comments on a piece she likes, that discomfort will instantly hit you, forcing you to respond.
Some guys will ignore the topic altogether. Maybe they’ll say “oh, I don’t really like it, but I guess if it’s your thing that’s fine”. In essence this is a rejection of her expression of her sexuality. She’s trying to share her sexual world with you, and you’re basically saying “no thanks”.
Other guys will try to diffuse the tension through humour. Making crude jokes like “yeah, one time I saw a stripper wearing a piece just like” which, whilst alleviating the tension, again shuts down her invitation to talk about sex with you.
The best response is to act is a natural way.
Easier said than done, right?
I’m not going to give away all of my secrets today, but I want to assure you that there is room for growth here. Once you’re able to express your sexuality in a way that feels natural to you, you’re going to be opening up a lot of doors with the women you come across in life.
You’ll be able to show that you’re not embarrassed by sex, that you’re not ashamed of your sexual urges, and when it comes to being in the bedroom she’ll know it’s not going to be an awkward experience where you’re constantly making jokes to ease the tension, or even shaming her for sleeping with you.
