Will you waste 2022 too? – 24 hours left

When you look back at the past year, what do you see?

2021 was far from the Renaissance period most expected…

Instead of rapid regrowth, endless opportunities, and going back to normal, we experienced a strong global recession and still lived through the shockwaves of the earlier pandemic, fearing new restrictions.

If you too feel like you’ve been ‘robbed’ of a few years of your life because of lockdowns & greater forces of chaos, then what is your next move?

As you can see, the situation is far from over yet…

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By the time one problem starts to disappear, a new one materializes on the horizon.

And if you plan to just wait until the government sorts this new geopolitical crisis out, you’ll probably again waste one, or more years in the process.

That’s the exact reason why I’ve launched my Lifestyle Design Academy, my premium 8-month live mentoring program that teaches you how to thrive and maximize your dating, social & financial success even during these challenging times.

Click HERE to learn more about it.

Over the past few days, hundreds of men from dozens of countries globally have already joined the program and started to bond with each other, sharing their goals and planning epic projects in the LDA brotherhood group.

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If you’re interested in learning precisely how the Academy works and how it can help you max your social, sexual, and career results in 2022, check my latest video.

In it, I run a detailed walkthrough of every single part of the Academy, revealing how the coaching, networking, accountability systems & practical modules function and develop week by week.

Click on the link below to check it out:

 

P.S. Less than 24 hours left to join the Lifestyle Design Academy. Join me today and let’s make this year pivotal to our future!

I’ve opened the enrollments for this program one week ago and we’re very close to reaching the maximum student capability for this round of the L.D.A.

The ambitious & committed guys who will manage to book their spots are in for a very epic ride…

That’s because taking part in the Academy is the closest thing you get to being mentored 1-on-1 by me in person, for a full eight months.

This is not another cookie-cutter, pre-recorded nonsense program that will sit on your hard drive for years.

This is a 100% Live program with live weekly Zoom lectures, 6 months of live masterclasses with world-class guest coaches, and 24/7 networking & accountability on our global LDA group including 600+ members from the previous years.

And if you join, you also get access to an exclusive suite of bonuses including 200+ hours of value-packed webinars, entire conferences, courses, Q&A panels, seduction encyclopedias & more.

If you’re tired of wasting your life and want to make 2022 a year worth remembering, click HERE to start your journey.

See you in the first class 😉

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How to propel spiritual growth (no drugs, no hippies)

Inner exploration can lead to tremendous self-growth…

…Or grandiose delusions.

See, the real purpose of spirituality and meditation systems out there is to assist you in unlocking higher states of consciousness and clarity of focus.

I’m a big advocate of them, but they’re just tools, although powerful ones.

The moment you elevate them to ‘absolute truths’ and become too obsessed and dogmatic about them, they lose their effectiveness and start damaging your life.

Trust me, I’ve been there…

 

Trying to live a celibate, stoic monastic life in my mid-twenties.

Meditating several hours every single day and restraining from all earthly pleasures.

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I’ll let you decide how that went 😉

Paradoxically, this fanatical ‘all in’ approach to spirituality that many advertise is the exact reason why the majority of men never get involved with inner practices in the first place.

 

They don’t want to turn into dazed hippies dancing around campfires or restrict everything as if they live in a monastery.

 

If you are interested in getting started in spirituality but want to skip all the nonsense, watch my latest video below.

In it, I and our executive Inner game Coach, Shae Matthews, break down the most effective ways to kickstart your spiritual & character growth without having to subscribe to absurd dogmas.

 

P.S. Want to extend success to all aspects of your lifestyle including dating, inner game & spirituality, career, and sexuality?

Then be on the lookout for my upcoming Lifestyle Design Academy launching this Saturday, April 9th.

LDA is an 8-month live mentoring program taught through weekly live lectures with me on core lifestyle design concepts like social circle penetration, outsourcing your business, organizing and getting invited to elite events, traveling the world for free, dating 9s & 10s, befriending high-value mentors, building personal tribe & networks, and a lot more.

You also get access to several live masterclasses with my own mentors and coaches guiding you to take your learnings and results into the stratosphere, like our student J:

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To learn more about how the Academy can help you build a masterpiece life, join my free 60-min ‘Lifestyle Hacking’ live webinar this Thursday, April 7th, at 8 pm (CET). This is a live coaching webinar, so spots are limited to guarantee the optimal teaching experience.

> Save your spot today here

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The #1 Mistake Successful Men Make (don’t underestimate this)

Do you ever feel there’s not enough time in your day to do everything you want?

For most guys,focusing only on financial success comes with a heavy price…

The richer you get, the less you’re able to enjoy your life.

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Before you realize it, it’s all about working harder.

Harder than your competitors.

Harder than you did last week.

Harder than Gary Vee told you to hustle.

But as your work capacity and career take off, what’s left of your life?

Neglected and handicapped KEY character areas.

That doesn’t change the fact that a strong work ethic and discipline are major assets required to succeed in a man’s life.

But you need to balance them out with something else equally as important.

To find out what that is, check my latest video. Link below:

 

P.SI’m back on the road for a new epic season of seduction & lifestyle design workshops!

That means you can now spend 4, 7, or 10 intensive days (up to 80+ hours of personalized coaching per student) learning from me and the entire TNL crew as we mentor you in achieving your most satisfying results in your romantic and social lives.

Click HERE to check our next training dates.

Currently, to guarantee the maximum safety for both our students and team coaches, as well as the bare minimum level of social restrictions, we decided to host most of our programs in Kyiv, Ukraine.

As I write this, I’m in the city myself, and the whole scene is vibrant and dazzling. Probably one of the best locations in 2021 to meet some of the most attractive, socially & sexually liberated women in the world.

To join me on your next epic journey of ultimate seductive success, click HERE.

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Will you waste 2021 too?

When you look back at the past 12 months, what do you see?

2020 was definitely what some investment analysts refer to as “a black swan” event and we all lived through its shockwaves.

If you too have “lost” one year of your life because of lockdowns & pandemic restrictions, then what is your next move?

As you can see, the situation is far from over yet…

And if you plan to just wait some more time until the government sorts this out, you’ll probably waste one, or more years in the process.

That’s the exact reason why I’ve launched my Lifestyle Design Academy, my premium 12-month live mentoring program that teaches you how to thrive and maximize your dating, social & financial success even during lockdown.

Click HERE to learn more about it.

Over 450 men from 42 countries globally have joined the program so far and experienced tremendous progress & transformation in their lives.

If you want to learn how it works and if it can help you achieve your goals for 2021, check my latest video.

In it, I run a detailed walk-through of every single part of the Academy, revealing how the coaching, networking, accountability systems & practical modules function.

Click on the link below to check it out:

 

P.S. There are less than 24 hours left to join the Academy. Join me to make this year pivotal to our future

I’ve opened the enrollments for this program one week ago and we’re very close to reaching the maximum student capability for this round of the L.D.A.

The ambitious & committed guys who will manage to book their spots are in for a very epic ride…

That’s because taking part in the Academy is the closest thing you get to being mentored 1-on-1 by me in person, for one whole year of your life.

This is not another cookie-cutter, pre-recorded nonsense program that will sit in your hard drive for years.

This is a 100% Live program with live weekly Zoom lectures, live masterclasses with world-class guest coaches, and 24/7 networking & accountability on our global LDA group including hundreds of members.

And if you join, you also get access to an exclusive suite of bonuses including 100+ hours of value-packed webinars, entire conferences, courses, Q&A panels, seduction encyclopedias & more.

If you’re tired of wasting your life and want to make 2021 a year worth remembering, click HERE to start your journey.

See you in the first class 😉

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Don’t act like her boyfriend if you don’t want to get a girlfriend

I want to address the common misconception that “all” women want relationships all of the time, particularly as soon as they start sleeping with a guy. First of all- this is an incorrect assumption and also a very negative and misleading mindset to have.

A lot of guys I coach often ask me:

“Why is it when I sleep with a girl she always wants to be my girlfriend soon after?”
“Why do all women just want a relationship as soon as they start sleeping with a guy?”
“How do I encourage a girl to start an open relationship with me?”
“How do I make sure it stays casual?”

Have you asked yourself this? Does this sound familiar?

I’ve realised through my interactions with clients that these are common mindsets. We need to address this and look at why men believe this and what can they do to readjust their mindsets. From what I have witnessed with many guys I coach, more often than not it’s that their own behaviour mimics that of a boyfriend (not a casual lover) therefore confuses the woman that they want a relationship. It’s important to define the relationship and the role you play in her life from the very beginning.

Men, you are creating more problems for yourself and shaping women into roles they don’t want to play. If you don’t want to get a girlfriend then don’t act like her boyfriend! Firstly, lets address this misconception and start by readjusting your beliefs and mindsets into something more positive and truthful.

Change your mindset

Your first mistake is the mindset that all women want relationships. Let go of this dated and incorrect assumption. Realise that women want a range of different relationships, depending on their age, mood time in their life- endless factors. A woman may be looking for a casual fling one month, then meet a guy a year later and desire a relationship with him. There are endless women longing to be seduced by that dashing lover or to have a wild summer fling; be that man that can offer her that experience.

Don’t screen for women looking for relationships

If you find yourself “dodging” being a boyfriend, then you need to know now its because you’re screening for and attracting women who want you to be her boyfriend. Without realising it, you may be unconsciously screening for behaviours and mindsets you don’t want. Starting casual relationship with a lover, but having the negative mindset that “she must want to be my girlfriend” is a really negative way to begin the relationship. Create the role and archetype as her casual lover internally from the very beginning.

Be clear and talk about it

There’s no need to call out your relationship status in the beginning. Being overly honest can be inappropriate. But once its clear you guys are seeing each other for some time, it will be important to discuss where you’re at. If she asks, or if you want to state it, be clear that you see your relationship with her as casual. Saying things like “I really like spending time with you. I’m not looking for an exclusive relationship, but I really enjoy what we have” can help. Ignoring it or lying is not going to help you.

Don’t behave like a boyfriend

How many times have I heard a guy say “I don’t know why my casual lover seems to want to make it more serious” and then I find out he is texting her 4 times a day and spending time with her 3-4 nights a week. Just like a boyfriend. Don’t ACT like her boyfriend if you don’t want to get a girlfriend!! It’s confusing for a woman and misleading.
Lovers and flings behave very differently than men in relationships.
Your behaviour communicates what you want, so start reframing your mindsets and behaviours to that of the casual fling or lover in her life.

Here’s some common “boyfriend” behaviours a guy may exhibit:
  • Texting too often (every day is too much!)
  • Involving the girl in part of his social circle too often
  • Planning for the future
  • Dirty weekends away vs Spending 24hrs straight at your place.

Yes, have sexy weekends away with each other every now and then.

However snuggling & videos at each others house every weekend is falling into relationship territory- don’t do anything in a routine.

  • Let a girl know separate time is both your own business– you don’t have to explain your whereabouts- it’s not ok to ask or check up on each other.
  • Indulging in emotional roleplays that you can’t follow through with. It’s unfair and misleading for the woman.
  • When you part ways from each other- don’t start planning for the next time you see each other (like you do in a relationship) simply say “See you soon.”

Play the dashing lover

Internalise this role. Start experimenting with this lifestyle. How is this different that a man in a relationship?
A lover is in a woman’s life irregularly. He’s the guy who she has a wild time with one weekend, but then they don’t see each other all week. He is not in constant contact with her and they don’t know every detail of each other’s lives. He is more likely to send dirty texts than sweet emotionally comforting ones.

Start experimenting with the roles you play in women’s lives and start internalising them so they become part of you. Consistency is vital.

Get into the mindset of playing the dashing lover or the summer fling. Explore these roles and the behaviours and lifestyles associated with them. Taking on these roles allows you to be more honest with yourself and with the women in your life. Your behaviour will be communicating what you really want and be thus in alignment with your mindsets. This way you will begin to screen for and thus seduce women with similar mindsets who are looking for the same type of casual relationships that you are.

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When it comes to developing a cool lifestyle wherever you are in the world, there is usually the organic slow burn, which relies on your gradually meeting people and stumbling across interests and new social scenes. This can literally take years to build or may not happen at all if you are isolated or have limited contacts.

Put in the effort needed to have a better life for yourself

To build an amazing lifestyle full of fun activities, interesting friends and sexy women, you must put effort into it. Many guys fall into the mindset of only focussing on one area of their life at a time, whether that is career, lifestyle or seduction. Sometimes yes you need to have sole focus that devours most your attention, but in general, combining these elements of your life goals will deliver much broader results. Although we endorse cold approach as a vital skill for having access to any woman you see, meeting women through a scene or hobby is certainly easier, as it is expected that people within a social scene be open to each other.

Building a lifestyle of hobbies you enjoy makes you a more attractive man. The reason is, when you are changing yourself and sculpting your life in a desirable way, you become desirable. You unconsciously carry a different energy with you that draws people to you. You radiate a happiness that is alluring to those who look at you. Therefore, put in the effort needed to have a better life for your self. Seek out that which you like to do. Creating the life you want is initially hard work, but after a while it becomes enjoyable and starts to generate it’s own momentum that eventually doesn't require you to maintain it, just to turn up and enjoy yourself.

Girls who are into the same subculture as you are much easier to meet. You have commonality, she's socially obliged to be friendly to you and she will have less fear or barriers to meeting you outside of class because you have mutual connections. Now of course if your seduction skills suck, no amount of proximity at yoga class will help. But when you mix game and lifestyle, the results skyrocket. When approaching and seducing within a social scene,, there are some key points to keep in mind.

Firstly, if you will see her frequently, don’t be full on with your interest. Overt direct statements of interest will create negative pressure and she’ll likely reject your advances. Flirt with her playfully instead of trying to treat her like a girl on the street. Saying things like “Good choice on your outfit today”, instead of “you look sexy in that outfit today” will deliver the message and keep you out of the friend zone without freaking her out.

Keep in mind this is the primary way she meets men anyways. Most couples meet through social circle, so there is no new paradigm to try to make her step into.

If you have some seduction ability and start moving into new social circles regularly, lifestyle game will become a major element in your success statistics.

Have fun building a lifestyle that you desire. Seek that which you want. This process of doing that will change you for the better. And of course, take advantage in your hobbies to meet women because the truth is, it's easier.

If you want to learn more on creating a desirable lifestyle filled with fun and women, come join me an the TNL team in of our workshops. Full details HERE.

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Creating Your Personal Elevator Pitch

When you’re meeting women, they seldom care about your job, where you’re from, what you studied. That’s not to say that these things aren’t important, but on face value they really don’t mean anything.

The Everyday Conversation Nobody Wants To Have

Conversations can be tough, that’s for sure. I’m going to run a little script by you, and tell me if it sounds familiar:

So…tell me…what do you…uh…what do you do for work?

Oh…

Cool.

Ok.

And uh…

Where are you from?

Really?

Right. That’s cool. I’ve been there.

And umm…

…yeah…

What did you study?

Ah, got it. Yep

……and for how long?

Years, gotcha.

This is the typical conversation I hear most guys having with women when they first join us on a workshop. But an even deadlier sin than this is failing to talk about themselves at all. THEN they ask a woman for her number, and I can only imagine what’s running through her head:

“Ummm….who the hell are you?”

Expressing Yourself

I get that it can be really hard to talk about yourself.

When you think back over the course of your life, you’ve been trained to ask these questions and to value this information by everyone you’ve interacted with along the way. It’s rare that people actually stop and ask “do I really care about what someone does for a living? And does that actually tell me much about them as a person?”.

When you’re meeting women, they seldom care about your job, where you’re from, what you studied. That’s not to say that these things aren’t important, but on face value they really don’t mean anything.

The actual meaning comes from the why. Ok, so you’re an engineer, but why? Did you follow that career path because you thought it would make your parents happy? Because you thought the money would be good? Or you just like trigonometry?

A common trap guys can fall into when they start approaching is thinking that by the simple fact that they are approaching a woman, they’re communicating everything she needs to know about who he is as a man. That he’s confident. That he knows what he wants. That he’s a risk taker. All attractive qualities, and sure, impressive in the moment, but not enough to get most women on a date with you.

Even if you’re still hopeless at approaching (in which case you should sign up for our 3-week beginner’s course, the Dating Accelerator you’re still going to come across a woman at some point and need to find a way to introduce who you are as a person.

The problem is that you still need to make a first impression, and if you don’t know how to do that, you’re going to automatically fall back on your bad habits, which likely include asking too many generic questions, not engaging the answers with curiosity, and failing to talk about yourself.

So what’s the remedy?

Perfect Practice Makes Perfect

The good news is that this is something you can practice. Remember that you don’t have to have an impressive resume to talk about yourself. You don’t need to have a high paying job or a fascinating lifestyle of travel and adventure to spark curiosity.

Here’s three things you should keep in mind that you can slip into the conversation.

  1. Something you’re really good at. This isn’t about impressing her, but taking pride in yourself. Maybe you’ve worked really hard at martial arts over the years, or you love programming, or you can balance an orange on your head.
  2. Something you like. Again, it’s not about trying to ‘game’ her by figuring out what she WANTS to hear, but what you genuinely like. Collecting goldfish. Experimental 90’s punk/folk music. Stargazing.
  3. Something you suck at. Don’t play out the cliche job interview answer of reversing this by saying “my biggest flaw is caring too much about people”. No no no. Be honest. This is about showing you’re human. I’m terrible at getting up when my alarm goes off. I can’t cook to save myself. My apartment is a mess most of the time.

Write these down somewhere. You don’t need to treat them as a ‘line’ that has to be inserted into EVERY interaction with a woman, but they are there in those moments when you need to share something about yourself with her.

Speaking of practice, you’re going to need a lot of it if you’re going to get really good at seduction. But as I’ve always said, the adage that ‘practice makes perfect’ is slightly wrong. It should be ‘perfect practice makes perfect’, which means, knowing how to practice is just as important as practicing.

If you’re really keen on learning what that looks like, I’ve put together a course that describes exactly what you should be doing as a beginner to make sure you are actually improving at seduction and not just running around in circles getting nowhere. You can learn all about the Dating Accelerator, including a course breakdown that describes exactly what you’ll be learning, by clicking here.

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How to set goals

The Harsh Truth About Goals

It’s Shae here, coming at you with some more inner game wizardry all about goal setting.

Why is it that most people fail to achieve their goals? Think about something like ‘new year’s resolutions’; people declaring they will finally join a gym and lose weight, or quit their job and pursue their dream.

You might even have specific goals about your dating life. Maybe you tired of constantly being reminded by family and friends that you’re still single. Or maybe you’re tired of hoping it will finally happen, only to be disappointed each night you go to sleep.

And when you think about how long this problem has been going on, I’m sure you’ve been wondering why things haven’t changed.

Why you’re still not able to approach women.

Why you’re still not seeing the results you want

Why you still feel so lonely.

As hard as it might be to shine a light on these thoughts and feelings, it’s important to at least acknowledge where you’re at. That’s the first step to the goal setting process.

Being Realistic

See, there is a classic goal-setting format of building a solid plan, then taking the steps to execute that plan and grinding your ass off until it’s completed, no matter what obstacles present themselves.

But let’s be honest, if you’ve already found out that approaching is a possibility, and you haven’t already started taking steps towards it, that methodology really isn’t going to work.

Think about someone who is out of shape. It’s a no-brainer that they have to go on a diet and exercise more, but they can’t actually execute the plan.

So sometimes the plan isn’t the problem, but it’s making it happen.

A paradigm I’ve adopted throughout my life, and one that the other coaches here at The Natural Lifestyles follow, is viewing myself as a creator.

This begins with acknowledging that there is an unseen part of you, whether you want to call it your unconscious, deeper self, or even just your heart, that is available for you to tap into.

By planting a solid intention about what you want, you’re opening yourself up to the possibility that it could happen.

Sometimes that possibility is just enough for things to start shifting and moving, although it can be really hard for the ego to understand this because it’s so attached to grinding and hard work.

Yet we have to ask ourselves, what intention should we set? What genetic code should we instil into that seed to ensure that it grows into something that will bear fruit?

You could set yourself the intention to have a really beautiful girlfriend, and for some guys that’s a legitimate goal.

But if you were to be honest with yourself, do you really feel ready for that? Do you feel like you’re the man you need to be, want to be, in order to have that woman?

How would you feel being with her knowing that you set yourself a goal to learn how to approach, to really gain the confidence to master it, yet never really pursued that until it became your reality?

What if your intention was instead to seek out the coaching you need to first become that man?

Making A Start, Even If It’s Small

If you’ve had a look at our workshops, I’m sure you’ve come up with one or two excuses why it’s just not going to happen for you.

Maybe it’s that you don’t have enough money. Maybe it’s that you can’t get the time off work. Or maybe you’re so wrapped up in your ego that you can’t admit to yourself that you need help.

Trust me, I know how hard it can be to let go of that pride.

But we know that most guys don’t even take the time to fill out an application. Most aren’t even willing to get on the phone with us and talk about their situation, and find a way to make it happen.

Keep in mind, you’re not signing up for some hardcore sales pitch, we actually just want to help in whatever way we can.

So if you’re setting yourself some goals for next year, maybe plant that seed. “What would it be like to do a workshop with the Natural Lifestyles? What resources, opportunities, connections do I need to come my way in order to make that a reality?”

Maybe you need to take a smaller step in order to convince yourself that it’s worthwhile. A lot of our clients have started with our beginners online course, The Dating Accelerator before moving on to our live coaching.

Over the 3 weeks of online content you’ll be given a simple framework to help you get over your approach anxiety, start approaching, and hopefully getting some numbers which will then lead to dates.

Will it mean you achieve your goal of having threesomes with playboy bunnies this time next month?

Probably not.

But it’s a start. It’s a way of you acting on your intention.

You’ll be amazed at what setting yourself that intention can lead to, especially if you’re willing to get out of your own way. Be sure to check out the Dating Accelerator by clicking here.

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Ever Feel Like You’re Not Good Enough For Women?

For whatever reason, a lot of guys believe that they don’t deserve what they desire. Maybe it’s women, or maybe it’s money, or success, or happiness.

Deserving The Best

Imagine what it would be like if you felt like you were entitled to the woman of your dreams.

I mean truly, like you really deserved her and not once, even for a second, doubted that you were worthy of her.

What would that be like?

How would you speak to her? Touch her? Look at her?

What thoughts would run through your head? How would it affect the other areas of your life, work, family, interacting with other women?

I think for most guys they aspire to reach a point one day when they really do feel like they deserve that woman. The smart ones recognize they need to do a lot of work on themselves if they’re ever going to get there. The rest delude themselves into thinking they’re already there…

But for now, it’s likely that you’re carrying around some kind of limiting belief about women which is holding you back.

Feeling Unworthy

After being a dating coach for over 10 years I can safely say that every man has at least one limiting belief, and they vary widely.

Some guys think that women won’t like them because they’re not tall enough.

Others think they need to have more of something…money…status…looks.

Occasionally I coach guys who are from certain racial backgrounds that feel leaves them at a disadvantage with women.

Yet these can all be summed up in a single belief, which may vary semantically, but is thematically singular.

“I’m not worthy”.

For whatever reason, guys believe that they don’t deserve what they desire. Maybe it's women, or maybe it's money, or success, or happiness.

After some deduction it can seem that this belief is very black and white. The opposite of “I’m not worthy” is, one may assume “I am worthy”.

Yet does that mean there are some men out there who are completely deluding themselves 100% of the time into thinking that they deserve the best of everything no matter what? I mean, maybe there are, but I’d easily slot them into the sociopath/psychopath category, because they’d be completely blind to any and all external feedback from the world.

Rather it’s more like a spectrum.


If you’re on the side of feeling completely unworthy, that’s going to reflect in your day to day life: how you walk, talk, interact with people, even how you view your future and set goals.

But moving out of that space doesn’t have to mean fooling yourself into thinking that everything is perfect and that you’re the greatest thing to ever grace the earth, because you’re not, and never will be.

Instead, what if you shifted the slider over a little? What if you started thinking like those guys out there who, for the most part, save for the hard times in their lives, generally felt and believed they were worthy of the women they desired?

How would a man like that walk? What would he say to people, and how would he say it? How would he look at women? What interpretation would he have about events that didn’t go his way?

Defining The Meaning Of Rejection

Let’s take approaching as an example. When guys first start out on workshops they’re often hyper aware of the mistakes they’re making. They instantly interpret their ‘bad approaches’ or ‘rejections’ as failure, as though they have done something wrong, or more accurately, that it is a reflection of some deep and dark flaw within them.

And yeah, often times there is room for improvement when it comes to their approaching and seduction skills, which is the value of coaching. Having experts there who have been through what you’re experiencing and can guide you to improve. If you’re in need of some tips to get started, I’ve put together a 3 week beginners course called the Dating Accelerator. By the end of the course you’ll know all of the basic nuts and bolts you need to start approaching women in your day to day life, including what to say as an opener, how to structure conversations, and getting her phone number. You can learn more by clicking here.

But even the way they interpret it can be changed. If a woman rejects you, it doesn't always have to mean that you’re unworthy of her. Maybe she just broke up with her boyfriend. Or maybe her cat died. Or maybe the barista gave her regular milk instead of soy milk and she’s had terrible gas all morning (might make you reconsider a date with that hot Russian model you approached…)

Who knows? The important thing is that it doesn’t necessarily have to mean something about you.

So start thinking about the negative beliefs you have about yourself, or about women, or even the world. What is the opposite of that belief?

Write down how a person would walk, talk, behave and operate in the world. Then try on some of those behaviours or attitudes for the day. Notice how people treat you, and notice how you feel about your life in general. The results will surely surprise you.

 

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Surrounded by people you don’t resonate with?

(even when you’re on a date?)

One question we get a lot about our workshops is…

''Why should I even bother to  attend a workshop if I already have some experience with women and a social circle?"

Whether you’re a positive guy who’s still just getting started in dating and relationships or someone with a few girls and friends around him, the answer is simple..

“To have the power to choose the right women for you.”

What do we teach our clients?

The truth is that most of our clients are not hard cases, not socially awkward virgins, but normal guys with decent careers and often experience in some type of romantic relationships. Even though they experienced some success in their dating lives they still feel they lack the quality they have always dreamed of. They want the freedom not to settle for an average girl who has little to offer them but who was convenient to date because there were no other options. Guys who take our workshops develop the social freedom to be able to confidently approach the real girl of their dreams instead in a café or in the street. Of course, the foundation of this ability to exercise freedom is always a healthy relationship with yourself, and that’s something that will inevitably be challenged as part of the workshop. Thoughts, emotions and physical sensations will be something to go through but I’ve always seen it come back to whether a man can show a woman that he doesn’t need her but want her and have the confidence and competence to really show that he wants to connect with her and do it successfully. That’s what we teach our clients.

Another advantage to doing a TNL workshop is, of course, access to the TNL online community, which, after 14 years of workshops in Australia, Europe and the U.S., is extensive. More importantly, that community is made up of guys who not only understand but actively practice what they learn with TNL, and so is the best place to find accountability, feedback and encouragement. Participants on TNL workshops receive guidance on how to build social networks like the TNL crew from the coaches, as well as through connecting with other guys on the course. The workshop gives you the chance to learn how to create social circles that are more than just your colleagues from the office as buddies as you develop the ability to seek out and interact with  like-minded, challenging, inspiring, supportive guys on their path to self- improvement.

A TNL workshop is a unique transformative experience

It’s hard to explain how deeply the change process goes in a few words. Our coaches work with you to develop your ability to self-coach and we use specialised drama role-play exercises to develop your ability to express your intent, have an engaging conversation and calibrate with touch. The core TNL curriculum only fits into a four-day program of eight hours per day and that’s why it’s our shortest group workshop. If you’re looking to dramatically develop your ability to interact with women, develop your confidence at a core level, and most importantly, get all the tools to design a lifestyle of your choice, join us on one of our upcoming 4–day residential...

Truth is, like I’ve said before, you’re really potentially only one approach away from meeting your next great lover, girlfriend, etc. The important thing is to learn how to make that approach matter;)

Peace,

James

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